DD (10m) wakes every 2 hrs, will oly be fed back to sleep! How do I fix it?

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DD is amost 10 months old. She is easy to put to sleep at night - I breastfeed her until she's sleeping and then put her in her bed. The problem is that I've stupidly trained her to only be able to go to sleep on the boob. She wakes up every 2 hours through the night and cries if I don't go through and feed her back to sleep. If I don't feed her she'll scream for up to two hours until she passes out with exhaustion. She won't take a dummy, I've been trying for a few weeks to get her to take one.

How do I get us out of this mess? I don't want to try the CIO method. I'm soooooooooo frickin' tired!

I should probably add - until she was 4 months old DD was a great sleeper. She'd go down at 7:30, wake once at 2:30 a.m. then sleep until 6:00 or 6:30. From 4 months it all started to go downhill. I thought it was maybe a phase (4 month sleep regression) and hoped it would resolve itself. Instead, I've just let bad habits become totally entrenched. I'm SHIT at this sleeping thing . DS was a rubbish sleeper too, although was better than DD by this age.

This is exactly the same as me, same situation with DS (now 4) and still with DD 15 months. The thing is, I am letting it run for now as I know how I will fix it in the end - CC - which isn't awful, seems quite painless AFTERWARDS, but I'm not in a rush to do it again, I will wait until I can take no more. I have an added rut in that I seem to now have to take her into bed with me after 12ish....but again, I know I can fix it in a couple of nights, I'm just not quite there yet! I also think these timings (every 2 hours/ after being a good sleeper for a few months) are very normal, they crop up again and again, I think some people just deal with it earlier, and some wait until it runs its course, but it's a very personal choice, probably easier to deal with in the end than it is to make the decision IYSWIM.

Am exactly the same! Was waiting for the 4 month sleep regression to end but it never did! DS is also clingy and its difficult to put him back in his cot after waking. Its very frustrating because I know how well he used to sleep!

Me too! Could have written your post word for word exactly! We were getting eight hours a night until four months and now it's all gone to pot. I'm finding it easier at the moment to have ds in bed with me but I know sooner or later I'll have to do something about it, just not sure what...I thought dd was a terrible sleeper, but ds has beaten her hands down .

Marking my place...

EXACTLY the same situation here. We're trying DP only going in at nights at the moment to wean her off the boob at least a bit. Started last night. DP rocked her to sleep after 50mins of crying with dd vomiting all over his shoulderand then each time the same, until 3am when she wouldn't resettle and I went in and fed her and then she slept until 7.30am. We're doing the same tonight and i am dreading it already. will let you know how it goes.

I would not do the cio method there are gentler sleep training methods there. If she is waking in the night are you sure she is not hungry? I would leave the dummy as you will have to wean her off it at some point.

Here are some ideas that you may or may not find helpful :

Dream feed when you go to bed or give her a bottle of formula for the last feed. One bottle will not interfere with your supply at this stage as it is well established.

Pick her up and give her a cuddle and then put her back in the cot with some white noise and stay with her. Gradually every night move further out of the room.

Is she cold, hot, banging herself against the cot to wake up? Have you tried a sleeping bag?

Does she have a really wet nappy?

She could be thirsty so if you dont want to feed her you could just offer water?

I hope it gets better soon but just try and remember that this is just a phase and it to will pass. Easier said than done but it will pass.

Last night was marginally better with us trying to cut dd's night feeds. She fed to sleep by 8pm, and then didn't wake until 3am, then DP went in and didn't manage to settle her for 2 hours. awful. she was crying lots, but he had a beaker of milk so if she was hungry she could drink, but didn't want it. So, i do think it is a comfort thing which is why i am going to stick it out at the moment. I feel a bit cruel denying her comfort in the middle of the night, but if she was only waking once like she was a month ago, i would just go with it, but she has got far too reliant on feeding everytime she wakes that i don't think it is good for her or for me. So, we'll see how tonight goes. We aren't going to be able to continue this in the week due to DPs job so i've decided that seeing she showed us last night that she can sleep until 3am without a feed, I will not feed her before 3 and then only once afterwards if she wakes and then she has to wake until morning. how is it going your end OP ? we're going to try and work on self settling next - it workds a little bit for naps but she always feeds to sleep at bedtime and i am dreading having to battle against this.

Multicolouredcat - well done, sounds like you're making progress.

No change here. DD has all 4 top teeth coming in at once, poor wee thing. 2 have cut through now, expecting the other 2 any day now. When her teeth hurt she just seems to want to feed feed feed and is waking sometimes every half hour - although she goes back to sleep after 30 seconds of feeding so it's not too bad. We're going to wait until these teeth pop through then try to do something.

Good luck for tonight MCC!

I have the same problem with dd2 18mths, unfortuantely she has to share a bedroom with dd1 6 so I always end up giving in & bfeeding her to sleep just so dd1 doesn;t get disturbed. Before xmas I was so tired & had so much to do I resorted to cc, dd1 went & slept in with dp & it wasn;t too bad although in the night I did still bfeed her but at least she was sleeping in her bed. Then they both got ill & I ended up sleeping on a mattress on their floor with dd2 in bed with me after about 1am. We've stayed pretty much doing the same, figured at least I get some sleep. The last few nights she's been waking wanting feeding every 2 hours & I know it's more for comfort than anything. It makes me want to give up feeding altogether although I love the bond but then think about the screaming that will be involved & think again! I envy you with supportive dh's my dh although no monster wouldn;t have the patience to help out at night!