Husband's "Where's the baby dreams" getting silly now, any ideas?

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My husband gets the dreams where he thinks our 9 month old DD is in the bed and about to fall out, or get squashed or something (I hope you know what I mean). I get them as well but nowhere near as bad or as frequent as he does. They seem to be getting worse, he litterally sits bolt upright and grabs me shouting "NO NO NO" he sounds petrified and it makes me jump every time. I tell him she's in the cot and normally he'll lie back down but sometimes he's certain she's in the bed and I have to turn the light on and be quite sturn. A couple of nights ago he had the same type dream but this time he'd lost our niece and started calling out her name, and last night he grabbed me and asked me who I was.
I think it's stressed related but can't think of anyway to help him, does anyone have any ideas if they've gone through similar? Thanks

I do this as well. Very annoying because I grab OH too, and switch the light on. The only thing that helps is my OH telling me very clearly that "LO is not here, safely in bed". I really need it to be spelled out for me.
On a positive note it is getting better - I am only doing it every few days now compared to every few hours not so long ago.

I've lost count of the times I've clawed at DP's face in the light rambling 'where is he where's he gone. Where is he. Where is he. Where's he gone' scrape scrape fumble fumble.

Night. Not light.

Very common. DH used to grab me when I tried to get out of bed and hold me in a bear hug because he thought I was DS about to fall out.

It has passed but it took a while. Not sure what to recommend really. I just shouted "gerrorf!"

Tell him he can either sleep in the spare room or see the GP. There might be something wrong that is fixable. Or it might wear off, but there's no need for you to be repeatedly attacked in your sleep.

I have these dreams too. I pat down the covers, grab the pillow and grab my partner. I only feel reassured when I have woken up and looked in the Moses basket where my son is asleep and heard him breathing. I have also pulled up my partners boxer shorts thinking I was pulling up my sons trousers. I will be glad when this stops!

If it's affecting him and you that much then he should see his GP, definitely.

Yes get him to go to the gp. My husband still has these and ds is 18 months. He's been referred for counselling for stress and other issues and the psychiatrist said it is normal in the first few weeks/months but long term is a sign that things are not good.

I got these dreams, mainly with my first, but only for the first 3m or so - think it was a lot to do with the initial sleep deprivation and the fact that it had been a tramatic birth and we had nearly lost him. The thing that sorted it for me was getting one of those breathing monitors for his moses basket and then cot. Still use it now for ds3. I know some people say they create more stress but it allowed me to sleep peacefully and not always feel I had to be "on alert" - then it just became habit. 9m seems a long time, I guess if he can get some good quality sleep and address the stress it will ease up?