sleep issues w/ 16 wk old (or the squirmy wormy...)

[cull]

DS was sleeping good for a while there. He'd go down between 9:30 - 11 would be up once between 3:30 - 5:30 and then go back down for a few hours. and he was napping pretty well during the day. It's always been either a 20 minute power nap or else he;s out for a couple of hours.
HOWEVER, lately he's been waking up A LOT during the night to feed. HIs bed is right beside ours (3 sided cot bed right up against ours) so i just slide him in to ours and feed him. I'm not getting a whle lot of sleep but I'm getting used to it.
Then yesterday he wouldn't nap for longer than 30 minutes. He would wake up all smiles and gurgles. But when he's tired he's miserable and fights sleep. So we finally go to be and ds won't fall asleep til nearly 11, starts fussing at 12 give him dummy sleeps til 2, bring him into our bed to feed him and then he drops off to sleep. Great right? Except that he gets all squirmy. He'll be still and sleeping soundly for a couple of minutes then, while still asleep, squirms and grunts for 30 seconds, then goes still again. The trouble is that I drift off, hear him, think he's waking, go to feed him and he's fast asleep.
What little sleep I was getting is now spent checking on the Squirmy wormy. DH says to put him in his bed but that won't help because (a) he's still actually waking hourly to feed and (b) I'd still be waking up to check on him.
Any thoughts? Anyone else's LO do this? I'm tired and it's making me all weepy and miserable!

Bless your cotton socks cull.
He is only making murmuring noises and you hear him.
I understand, because I was like that when ds was first born - every time, he made the slightest noise, I was there.

I know this sounds very harsh, but I think I agree with your dh.
If you moved him to his own bed, when he really woke up and needed feeding, you could attend to him, within seconds.

Would that help ?

If it was just little noises that would be fine, but it's full blown GRUNTS and moving his whole body. I would swear everytime that he was awake. (and sometimes he is!)
He does it when he is in his bed too(for that small time at the start of the night).
He's always been really grunty, but the last couple of nights it's been a full aerobic workout he does all night.
BTW He's been asleep now for an hour and 20 minutes. HIs first proper nap in 2 days!

Aha! The 16 week "sleep gone to pot" problem. I had this. As did Lockets, and loads of other people. It appears that it's a phase that can last a few days or weeks (7 weeks in my case). Horrible, horrible, horrible while it lasted. I did move DS to his own room when he was 24 weeks old and it did help, but I think it was just time rather than the move that made the difference - he'd already started to get better. And we held out until 26 weeks before starting solids (which is another solution that will be suggested to you) and his sleep actually got a little worse at first before improving to just being up twice a night for a feed.

When I was pregnant, I imagined that we would have our lovely child, in our room , for atleast a few months.
When ds & I came home, we actually had him in our room for less than a week !!
I know this sounds very harsh to the rest of the world, but you wouldn't believe what a grunter, snorer, riggler, that he was.
I moved him to his own room, within a week.
Still, the moment he made a noise, I heard him.
Your ds is 16 weeks.
It is o.k. to move him to his own cot.
Only if you are happy with that.

Feeling a bit better today. Lsat night he was out cold by 9:30. He still wanted to feed just about hourly, but he was quieter and much better.