help 5month old

[kasdie]

i have a 5mth old and she is so loud she cries like she is being hurt sometimes i not long moved house in nov i dont like to leave her to cry to long when i put her down to sleep as i think what must neigh think as her dd is same age and so quiet she sleeps most nights it daytime really ive stared to put her in cot when think she is tired as i used to put her in bounc chair a rock her to sleep but wont do that anymore wants to lay flat she feeds every 2hours in day i dont now if i leave her to long till she is overtired but she goes mad just get so my mum has her somtimes and cant control her so i cant ask anyone to have her for a break have u got any suggestions please

have you tried asking your hv for help? they can get someone to help you in the days for an hour or two whereabouts are you?

i would suggest seeing an osteopath!

she is getting better as time goes on i have spoke to hv and all they say is get her in a night routine but she is fine at night i want to get her in a day time routine any suggestions

will she sleep if you take her for a walk in the pram?

my ds2 was a nightmare baby inthe sense that if he wasn't being fed or held he would cry there was nothing anyone could suggest and kept saying he would grow out of it i found that a lot of visual stimulation helped as i think a lot was due to boredom when he started becoming mobile it suddendly stopped, i know thats prob no consolation right now but i still say have a word with hv have you any friends or family apart from your mum tat will take babe for a few hours a day?

no one can control her she throws herself back sreams i trust other people but i feel i cant leave dd with anyone as i dont think they would settle her her dad cant control her its left to me i get deppressed sometimes just want to get out on own but cant ive got another dd who is 6 she is really good a bit cheeky sometimes

Hi Kasdie, My ds will be 5 months next week. He also cries ALOT. ARRGGH. Sometimes it drives me crazy when I see all the other babies being so good at the same age. He had colic too!! I find that getting him settled during the day is quite tough. This is because he gets tired really really quickly.He also loves to be on the move all the time and gets bored if I have him in the buggy for too long. He too is fine at night and has just started sleeping right through for about 12 hours.Horray
I had to do the pupd thing so that he now naps in his cot without me rocking him. Although he still cries to let me know he's tired it is alot easier to get him to sleep thanit used to be. I also gave him a bed time teddy which he cuddles at every sleep time. Also I just started a day routine it goes like this;

Up at 7 or 8-feed,activity, long walk so he can nap in the buggy (he does cry on the way home for about 10 mins)at least he gets a rest though as this is his grumpiest time

get back at 10:30 - feed solids and bottle

11:15 - nap

1:15 - bottle,activity

2:30 -sleep

5:30 - bath, massage, feed in dark room then straight to bed.

Also I found that holding ds with him facing out the way so your arm goes over the front. this really seemed to calm him down. Also just lying kicking with nappy off.
DS also used to feed every 2 hours but I put him on milumil and he can now go for longer.

Dont know if any of this helps, but I can sympathise.

thanks lynseym dd is on sma i did put her on sma white but she kept being sick more than now so i put her back to sma she has 5oz and still 56 bottles a day and solids as the milk is not enough she has slept weel today but starting now im glad im not the only one if i go out she is worse

I know it is so difficult sometimes. My ds was a nightmare this afternoon! So much for the routine(straight out the window today)ha ha. I too started ds on sma gold and then changed to sma white. He was also very sick on this and used to be sick all over the carpet at every feed. I then changed to Aptimal 2 which was much better. I seen almost an imediate change in him. when he got hungrier I changed to the milumil. SMA white can cause constipation and colic and I wish I had never put ds on this. TBH in the hospital when they asked me which milk I wanted I said SMA as it was the only one I could remember.
I dont know how you would feel about maybe trying a different milk but it certainly helped me. Just a thought.

thanks i might try that milk mums got her tomo hope shes fine as she is getting in a routine with the cot but dd at mums house dd is also teething

my first ds was very similar - i always thought he was crying for a feed and he ended up feeding every 1.5 to 2 hours even at night - horribly colicky too. Would really recommend GFs contented baby routine - can't say ds was totally content on it but 80% better almost immediately (now he's a toddler he's no problem at all (most of the time!)). GF seems quite strict but once they get the gist of it you can relax a bit. With my second ds i thought i'd try to be more natural and let him find his own routine but quickly switched to the GF method when at 3-4 weeks he seemed to be getting the same as his brother. Introducing routine is not just much easier for you but better for them as they don't get overtired etc. Agree with suggestions of kick without nappy and carrying face forward - also if crying is worse in late afternoon, why not get ready with the pram or take shopping at that time - it usually keeps them quiet and is easier to do than carrying about constantly
Good luck with whatever you try

what is gf routine can somebody let me no

Gina Fords Contented Little baby - she'll detail routines for birth up to 1 yr. At 5 mths:

Wake & feed at 7pm (strict)
9am-9.45 nap in dark in rm
11.30 lunch
12.15 - 2.15 sleep in dark - no more than 2 hrs
5pm feed (solids)
6.30 milk feed
can have a short nap in afternoon not ness in dark - maybe in buggy.
7pm bed - in bedroom

Max day time sleep = 3 hrs
wd recommend buying the bk as she gives far more detail than this & help if things don't go to plan.

good luck!!!!

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dd daughter has a bottle every 2hours mainly goes sleep about 1 later sometime earlier but she goes bed bout 8-9 as if i put her at 7 she wakes through night i need someone to help get me in strict routine and thanks for book details please someone get me sorted i didnt have to do with first dd1

hello has anyone got some ideas

if following GF routine start on first day by getting up at 7 (put light on at 6.45 to allow to wake up natrually then that gives you hopefully 10 mins to wash and dress yourself in peace). give first feed/breakfast then take to bed at 9am, give a kiss and cuddle for a couple of minutes in dark room before putting in cot. may cry for first few times but hopefully will get some sleep before you put light on/take off covers at 9.30ish to wake for 9.45am. Give milk at 11.30am (she will want it earlier but try to make her wait). Then after milk give some pureed veggies. Again before putting to bed give kiss and cuddle in dark room with no eye contact and bed by 12.15am. Light on and covers off at 2.00 to wake up by 2.15 and milk at 2.30pm and so on. I have changed routine slightly for my 5 mth ds so that he has a nap at 5pm to 6pm and goes to bed after 8pm - this is so that i have time to cook and enjoy dinner in peace with my toddler.

my first ds was 12 weeks before i started the routine and i felt that i really had to force him into it because he was used to feeding almost constantly. after a couple of days he got the hang of it and it was such a relief as the crying was a lot less than he did before i introduced it. Once they get used to it they actually enjoy going to bed - my 5 month old ds now gurgles when he goes in his cot - it's lovely and i hope you get that too

thanks for your help im going to try that dd has gone to bed by 730 tonight norm time 8/10 dont no if going to wake for a feed as she has one bout 9ish

EHmum dd has started to roll over found she gets tired alot now she sleeps better now i feel alot happier as i thought i couldnt cope before she went to bed by 730 last night had me up 2 this morn norm time 9-10 and sleeps to 830 without waking through night so i find it better later its just nice to talk to please keep giving advice thanks everybody i feel really happy with the advice ive been given

I'm glad you're happier - it can be hard work being a mum can't it

sure can she seems a lot happier now even mum said she is alot better now i think she get frustrated because she cant get round with her dsister who is 6