My DS is 6 wks old and I really want to introduce a routine - nothing too rigid, just a basic pattern of bath / bottle / bed and some regular feed patterns....this is DC3 so in theory I shouldn't need to be here posting for advice BUT when DS was only 10 days old I had an accident at home and ended up dislocating and breaking my shoulder. As a result I now need round the clock care as I can't even pick my baby up, so I am at the mercy of lots of different helpers with lots of different opinions. I have also had to move from breastfeeding to formula feeding. My main problem is that DH has to help in the night and I am struggling to convince him that a routine would help - he seems happy to be reactive and allow DS to be demand fed, but the lack of structure is really bothering me, and I feel like we are caught in a vicious cycle. DS typically feeds every 2-3 hours but sometimes he doesn't finish the bottle and I am fairly sure that part of the problem is that the majority of people looking after him are too eager to feed him and often mistake tiredness or wind for hunger - but so many people being involved in his upbringing, coupled with me having to take a back seat, means that I am losing some of my mothers instinct as well as my confidence. Also, DH has a habit of falling asleep on the sofa and can be very difficult to wake up - so,like tonight,it is often the early hours before we all go to bed as I can't physically move the baby and go upstairs at a time I feel is more appropriate. DS then won't settle in his Moses basket so we co-sleep, which I am uncomfortable with. I realize all babies are very different but it would be really helpful if I could get some general advice from any mumsnetters out there who are happy to share the kinds of feeding & sleeping patterns that worked well for them. Thanks in advance.