My 5 month old DS2 is still awake all evening usually till about 10.30 when I go to bed with him. I really want to start getting him in bed in the early eve so I get a couple of hours to myself. He is EBF and to date hasn't had much at all in the way of routine - DS1, who is 3, is disabled so DS2 tends to have to fit around him. DS1 has a bedtime routine starting with dinner around 5-5.30, bit of playing or Cbeebies, bath, stories and bed at 7 - he now goes to sleep by himself really well most of the time but we have had battles over this so don't want to change things too much for him. Because he can't do anything for himself really it is like having another baby to bathe, change, get to bed etc I just don't know how to fit in a second bedtime routine for Da2 at same time so basically at the moment he has to wait till Ds1 is in bed. As DH will be home over Christmas I thought I might be able to use this week to start getting DS2 into a routine but I don't even know where to start - he is wide awake most of the evening and any attempts to put him in cot (or indeed put him down at all!) before he finally conks out about 10.30 just result in him getting in an absolute rage!
So basically any tips on how to introduce a routine and get him to bed, and how to combine this with other routine, would be appreciated! Oh, and I can't bathe them together unfortunately due to DS1's disability, obviously would be a lot easier if I could.