22mth waking and real tears!!!!

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Most nigths our dd wakes and has done for months. There is no set time. The general routine is me going in and just getting her due to the usual thing of being so tired and unable to settle her in her own bed. DH is all for leaving her to cry, which I agree with but in the middle of the night or with two or less hours to 'getting up time' I truly cannot be bothered. She is of Oscar-winning material when it comes to crying out for mummy or daddy! Please advise; all suggestions most welcome to a very tired mummy. PS I know I am one of thousands of you out there!!!

Oh I'm going to follow this one! ds 18m is finally settling but dd 4 years keeps waking up at night crying... and she's ready to be nominated for an Oscar too

Is she thirsty?

up to you

pick up put down

controlled crying

cry it out

all of them work if you stick consistently to it and don't let the manipulation get you

My usual advice:

Have you tried co-sleeping?

Seriously though, it would probably shut her up for another couple of hours and you could all gat a bit more sleep.

The co-sleeping is what ends up happening most nights with dh going into or already in the spare room (don't mind, more room for me!). I'm just wondering if I'm/we (but mostly me ) are storing up trouble for when dd gets older? She was at her very best last night....mmmuuuuummmmyyyy/ddddaaaaadddddyyyy...big bed, big bed; it gets me so stewed up that I find it hard to get back to sleep and as someone who doesn't sleep well anyway....aarrrggghhh. What I'm really looking for is an absolute, guarenteed way of sorting this out, oh that and this Saturday's winning lottery numbers. No pressure ladies; I await further instruction!!!

Yes, you probably are storing up further trouble for yourselves. However, you don't have to deal with it now, always the main thing in making parenting choices I feel

Think about it though, if you don't much mind her coming in with you, and you all sleep better as a result, what's the problem? She won't still want to be coming in when she is 13, the situation will resolve itself sooner or later.