sleep problems with dd @ 14 months

[JingleBabe]

dd sleep is causing problems between my an dp. we have different ideas on what to do and i dont know what to do anymore. she has never been a great sleeper but just lately its like we've taken a step back.

she is waking again at 3am and 6am. I've been going in and calming her down and shhh-ing her to sleep. dp wants me to just leave her to cry it out but when we've tried in the past i cant cope!

i dont know what to do. i have agreed that tongiht we will try letting her cry without me going in but i can see its going to be hell

Can sympathise with you as my DD (15 months) not that great a sleeper and currently waking up after we have gone to bed. Have tried leaving her to cry before but she gets so hysterical that it really doesnt work. Not saying it wont work for you though - but you have to be really strong! All the books I've read (not that many but a few) say that you must decide on how you are going to solve it otherwise they get mixed messages. However that is easier said than done i know!! Myself and DH have often ended up shouting at each other in the middle of the night but more out of desperation of what to do.

Not great advice I'm afraid but you have my sympathies! Hope it goes OK tonight.

sympathies too - my 14month old seems to be doing exactly the same.
We tried everything before leaving her too cry it out and it has worked for us but I found it really hard and can be upsetting. However, for the past 3 nights she has slept through from 8 - 8 so hopefully we have cracked it!
Good luck!

we tried 'controlled' crying but it just didnt seem to work - although i think i might have stayed in the room too long between the cries.

we've agreed that i can go in if she gets too worked up - but its difficult to know where that line is!? i have a different idea.

i have said that i will leave her tonight but i find it soooo hard. i said that if she is still going after an hour i want to go in a comfort her but dp thinks we should just leave her (full stop).

is he being unreasonable or am i? (for me an hour will be torture!)

Ohhhh....I never left her for an hour I agree that would be torture.......
I think the longest we left her was about 10 minutes and we could hear that the crying wasn't real crying but more tired cries iyswim

not been on for a while but we've cracked it!

the first night, she woke at 2:30am and we left her for 15 minutes. she went off to sleep - i crept in 5 minutes later to make sure she was covered over, etc. she woke again at 4am and went quiet again after just 10 minutes.

the same happened for the next couple of nights

she's been sleeping through 8pm to 6am for the last 4 nights

i'm not adding this to gloat, just to help other people see that there is a light at the end of the tunnel!!