New proof about the dangers to your baby of letting them cry it out...

[jesk]

www.psychologytoday.com/blog/moral-landscapes/201112/dangers-crying-it-out

I'll let the article speak for itself.
I never did controlled crying, I had my girls in our bed from the start.
Now they are great sleepers, and lovely gentle children.
Please take the time to read this.

Peeling, it is unacceptable IMO to leave a baby crying for 45 minutes when you could do something to stop it being upset, but you're choosing not to...

If you're leaving them to cry because you can't do something about it, because you're already doing something to look after the baby's twin, or an older child needs something more urgent...or even because you have no idea what it wants, have tried everything and are about to reach breaking point - that's very different.

Sometimes there are things you need to do that are more urgent than see to a baby (not masses, but there are some) sometimes it makes no blooming difference what you do anyway, lol.

Anyone with more than one child has to leave a baby crying at one time or another, with twins of course that's going to happen more, that's not a reflection on you - that's their fault for being awkward and arriving at the same time, lol

Peeling - it sounds like a complete nightmare :( I know it probably seems like forever to you now, but fortunately it's only for a short while - you will come out of the other side of this. In the meantime, the last thing you need to worry about is what some inept fool has written. You are doing your very best - it is all you can do and it is enough. Do you have any support? I am sure you have had lots of suggestions on other threads, so I'll sit on my hands as you haven't actually asked for any :) This too shall pass... x