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My 14mo has slept through the night twice :(

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newbabynewmum · 14/12/2011 01:30

That's it really. Just wanted to see if there's anyone who feels my pain?
There's no regular time for wakings, no regular length of wakings and no regular solution either so I really don't know how to deal with it.
I'm an LP too. So every single night (bar two) I've for up.....

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emmyloo2 · 14/12/2011 02:48

Oh that sounds dreadful! I have a 12 month old who was a good night sleeper but it all recently turned to shit and so we have had regular night wakings. I work full-time as well so it is hard. I do feel your pain but you are doing it even tougher if you are a single parent (I think that is what LP means?). Honestly, you must be incredibly strong to cope. I struggle to cope and I have a husband who helps me. It was getting so bad for me i was getting quite depressed.

Anyway, we ended up taking some action and doing CC on the weekend. We also got a sleep consultant who came to our house last night and she was great. Basically the reason for our DS night wakings is likely developmental and also because they wake up and they are not in the same position or state as they were when they went to sleep. So it's a matter of teaching them to self settle despite them not being in the exact same state as when they went to bed. For example if your baby always goes to bed with blankets and then wakes up without his blankets he may cry out for you. Same as if they go to bed with a full stomach and then wake up without a full stomach. We did CC last night to get our son to sleep and then he woke at 12.30am and instead of taking him out of his cot and giving him a bottle, I let him cry for a little bit then went in and lay him down (he was on his front) and just repeated "it's ok" over and over again while rocking his mattress a little. It took 30 minutes but he feel asleep and we then had to wake him at 7.30am this morning. It was definitely harder than just giving him the bottle but hopefully it will produce some results.

I hope this is helpful and I am sorry for the long response. I just felt such sadness when I read your post and I really felt for you. Honestly, you are doing one of the hardest things in the world. The fact you are coping should make you very proud.

ChipPanSpam · 14/12/2011 09:51

I feel your pain. I have 15 month twins and DTS has also (randomly) slept through twice. Thankfully DTD usually sleeps 11 hours but she is ill at the moment so was waking up every 30 minutes last night and then DTS was also up twice and woke for the day at 04:30am bleurgh...

I keep thinking that it can't get any worse but it does. I tried a gentle version of controlled crying but he just will not settle without a bottle and can cry for ages and that's with me sitting with him patting him! The strange thing he will quite happily go to sleep by himself at the start of the night Xmas Confused

It must be really hard for you doing it by yourself. DH helps out if things get really bad but usually I do all the night wakings myself as DTS does not settle very well for him.

I am hoping that he will grow out of it soon but am getting more despondent about the situation.

Sorry not much help at all, but just wanted to let you know you are not alone having a crap sleeper!

SleepDeprivedGrumpyBum · 14/12/2011 12:53

My nearly 14 month old has never slept longer than 5 hours without waking up.

Hope that helps Xmas Grin

NightLark · 14/12/2011 12:58

I saw your title and came on to say 'congratulations'!

But I do see your point.

DS was the worlds worst - started sleeping through age 5 and would still rather come into bed with me and DH than sleep "all alone ", but even he has got there in the end.

Cut yourself slack. Some things can't be fixed with a couple of nights of CC (I should know), so be as nice to yourself as you can and know that one day (one day!) it will change.

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newbabynewmum · 14/12/2011 19:06

Yes - working Fulltime too is very tiring!

I'm glad there's some more people out there though - I know no one has a solution really but it's nice to hear my daughters not totally abnormal! Xx

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newbabynewmum · 14/12/2011 19:07

Do you have to pay for sleep therapists by the way? Are they really expensive?

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Moln · 14/12/2011 19:13

i know your pain

by the age of 12 months my ds1 has slept through the night two less nights than your dc.

However i wasn't a LP however do have a dh who wouldn't wake to a bomb going off so maybe don't quite feel the same pain!

Certainly can empathis though

TheSecondComing · 14/12/2011 19:30

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newbabynewmum · 14/12/2011 19:52

Right second coming. Christmas holidays begins this weekend. Monday I'll do 6mins CC - will let u know how it goes!

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