Close to breaking point with 4yr old- up through the night and early riser.

[Caz10]

I feel like I will go mad if this keeps happening! Dd is through to my room every night, she wriggles and is very unsettled, wakes me and her baby sister quite a few times throughout night. Baby sister also up 3-4 times a night, different bloody times of course. Then 4yr old is up for the day any time from 5:30 onwards. I'm lucky if I'm snatching 3-5hrs sleep in total across the whole night. If dh is here he will take dd1 away when she gets up early, but that is when dd2 is starting to sleep more lightly, need fed again etc. I tried getting dh to take dd1 away when she came through in the middle of the night but it was a disaster, both of them yelling etc.
I can feel myself boiling with rage at her when I feel her waking up at 5 again, especially when I know I will bear the brunt of her overtired behaviour later. I have screamed at her some mornings which I hate myself for. It's not even 7am and have been in tears already, which tires me out even further. Can anyone advise?

Poor you! Have you tried reward chart? Have you asked her why she won't stay in bed? Is there anything that she thinks would help?

She has said before that she was cold, so we got her a warmer quilt, more layers on etc but it hasnt made much difference! She goes through phases of this so I know than she can do it, it makes such an enormous difference when she does. She has a gro clock but just comes through to say the sun is not up yet!! Tried a reward chart but she just lost interest because she was getting nowhere with it! Looooong day ahead.....

Maybe slow steps with the reward chart so she can get some encouragement? What about a sticker if she can come into you quietly and sleep in a little nest on the floor or something, instead of wriggling?

Is there anyone around to give you a bit of a break in the day?