DS has fed to sleep since he was born: cluster feeding never really stopped as I think he learnt to just sit there and suck constantly for comfort. Now he's older I wanted to try and get my evenings back and gradually disengage him from me as a sleep prop... Crying to be avoided where possible! I have had limited luck in pacing, rocking and shh-ing for ages but this does not really make much difference to me. Anything less than vigorous application of all three things had little effect. The No-cry sleep solution sounded fine but he is screaming the moment we get in the bedroom and the nightlight goes on and feed is over: no amount of holding him quietly seems to work. He refuses a dummy; we have tried lots! The main issue seems to be that once he becomes very sleepy, or is asleep, he starts at either being put in the cot or by his arms jerking, and then we have to start again... He will not settle himself in the cot even with me leaning in and patting / stroking him and shh-ing. Tonight has been over an hour of him screaming, starting to settle, then waking up over and over, I am so fed up and hate hearing him distressed.
Bedtime routine is in bath / bathroom while I bath DD, then Dh reads to her and I take DS into our room to feed and put on sleeping bag: lullaby nightlight and little lamp on low. Often he falls asleep feeding on the bed and I get up and go out but 10/15 mins later he wakes up.
Any helpful thoughts appreciated, I can't think what to do next. 