sleep problems with a 2year old

[SleepySheep]

I haven't written on here for a long time, but used to find everyone's advice so helpful, I'm hoping the same will happen now.

We recently moved to a new house and my my son had to get used to a new room, bed, nursery etc. He seemed to do all perfectly and was sleeping from 7-7 happily. But since beeing ill and turning 2, all that's changed. He now takes several attempts to be put to bed - if i'm in the house, if it's just daddy he's fine. But then he's up anywhere between 12 and 3am demanding milk, demaning to get up, demanding to sleep with us - which is what we've given in to.

But it's been five weeks now. We're both exhausted and at each other's throats. we just don't know how to get DS back into his own bed and asleep without it taking hours and him making himself choke through screaming.

Any advice would be more than welcome.

Ds2 is 2 and a half ish. He comes into our bed at 3 or 4 and because I've let him do this I will soon be trying to get him back into his own bed.
I just can't deal with the crying at the moment so i let him. He sometimes wants milk also.
So, could you let him stay in your bed so you can catch up with sleep? And then try again?
Take it in turns to deal with him? (We tried this, but I would wake also)

That is exactly what we do! we let him in just so we can all go back to sleep - though sometimes this does't work daddy has to get strick. what makes it worse is that I work full-time and am slowly losing the will to live!!

Does he have a nap? Could that be a factor?
If ds has a nap any later then 12, I know that he won't go to bed at 6:30 or 7 ish easily. He doesn't usually nap anymore anyway. But if he does I wake him. Then he's so tired he goes straight to sleep with no fuss.

he normally as a nap anywhere between 12 and 1 for 2 hours. if he doesn't he is awful! and it can sometimes make him get up at 5!

He's younger than mine, i see.
Both ds stopped their naps early. A nightmare in the day but so worth it at bedtime. Could you shorten it to 1 hr 1.5 max and see what happens?

'make him get up at 5'....Don't get that bit.

I know it's crap, but there were days where i came home from work ate something, watched a little TV and went to bed to catch up on sleep....v early. What a sad life, but i did feel better for getting a head start on my own precious sleep.

no we don't get that bit either, there just seems to be a pattern in that if he doesn't sleep enough during the day, he gets up earlier in the morning!!

makes no sense!!!

Ah, see what you mean now. Dur. (lack of sleep has trashed my brain)

How about trying to make nap earlier in the day?

sometimes he will, sometimes he won't.

why don't they come with an instruction mannual - that they've also read?