CC questions

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Hi no judgements here please. I am struggling and I know all the arguements against.

Why do you have to increase time between visits? Can you just return every 2 mins?

How long do you stay in the room? Long enough to comfort or just a quick, it's time to sleep, love you baby.

Can you do it for just for bedtime or just for the first few hours (ie all wake ups before 11) or does it have to be all night? How does this work if your baby is hungry? (DD is 8 1/2 mo but used to taking calories at night) Can I just set feed times of say 11 and 3?

Do I need to buy a book about it? If so which book.

Thank you in advance.

you work it whatever way suits you - as long as you stay consistent with what you choose to do you should see results.

There is a reason why you are meant to increase the times before returning but I can't remember why, sorry. You are meant to cut out all night feeds. You're only meant to go in briefly just to show them you are there. Controlled crying was developed by Richard Ferber so Imagine his book on i would be the best www.amazon.com/Solve-Your-Childs-Sleep-Problems/dp/0743201639/ref=ntt_at_ep_dpt_1

Graduated extinction has been shown to have as much success as CC in studies. Though I think it might take a little longer it is less stressful all round.

i never timed, i just went in when baby got past the point of grizzling and made sure i didn't leave him long enough that he couldn't calm down as soon as i gave him his comforter if that makes sense. i found that an easier way of doing it - sometime he could grizzle for ages but if he dropped and couldn't find his dummy then there was no point leaving him any longer because he just wouldn't have settled.

you do as little as possible to settle them, the minute they are lying down and quiet then you leave. say and do as little as possible so they don't get used to you being there helping them to settle back to sleep.

do it 24/7 so every time the need to be going to sleep or sleeping you do the same thing. it won't work if baby is hungry. wait until baby has dropped all night feeds then do it.

My baby is comforting feeding at night so I have no idea if she is hungry. (I'm bfing) I feel she will never drop night feeds by herself. She uses the breast to fall back to sleep during night wakings (some nights there are 4 after 10. I currently feed her for these as I'm too tired not to. There is usually 2 wakings before 10 which I currently cuddle her for)

Isn't graduated extinction and cc the same?

Natural baby. I've done that for naps and bedtime the past 2 days but not night wakings as she seems to be so tired she wont suck the dummy. She still wakes after 45 mins at night. I'll give it a week and she how things go. I think I need to ditch the dummy but then she will have no comfort in her cot.

I feel I'm slowly fading with exhaustion.