Waking for feeds at 18 weeks still - normal????

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My ds is just over 18 weeks and has always woken for feeds at 12, 4 and 7.30 (goes to bed at 7.45). Is this normal (whatever that is)? Books seem to suggest that by now babies should miss the 4am one, but ds shows no signs of even thinking about it (he is v. hungry at all of these - and will not drink more in the day - turns away, cries etc).
Not complaining too much..he is quite good at settling. It is just when he is weeing an awful lot because of night drinks, and if I change him he sees this as a cue for playing rather than going back to sleep (I never join in, so don't know why he thinks this). If I don't change him, he wakes up with a wet tummy because he has rolled and the nappy leaks.
Do I just wait until he doesn't fancy lots to drink in the night?
Thanks in anticipation.....

Agree totally Hunker, he's only 11 weeks fgs

hunkermunker I'm sorry I made you sad - i was trying to be jovial believe it or not I'm a good mum and my dd is a healthy well fed dd I did the same with her so I know I'm not being bad as you obviously must think I am for feeling sad for me

MG, I'm pg (due any day) and hormonal and defensive of "poor, wee babies"

Wait a few months till I have an 11-week-old that I'd cheerfully sling out of the window when s/he wakes for the nth time in the night

But mummygow if your baby is fighting for the milk for an hour why not just give it?

mg, I'm sure you're a good mum, but do please remember that some babies do need milk in the night. just because your first didn't at 11 weeks doesn't mean this one doesn't.

Are you a gf follower?

congratulations hunkermunk and good luck for the next couple of days, sorry for being defensive

Thank you! Don't fight too hard with him though - remember it makes me

Out of interest mummygow, why do you think that ds should be hungry at the same times dd was? they are separate people!

there was milk in the bottle just diluted 4oz water 2oz formula and yes hercules I do like gf routine so you can have a go at me about that too but as I said I went through the same things with my daughter and she's healthy and did't die of starvation

But that was your daughter, this is your son.

They are not the same baby and even the same baby is sometimes hungry, sometimes not.

even gf doesn't suggest deliberately cutting night feeds until 14 weeks or so iirc

Think I'll stay away as made me a bit sad too.

clayhead I know they are seperate people but if he was cutting back on his morning bottle so its a circle, if he doesnt eat enough during the day then he will obviously be hungary at night

cant believe I have made you all feel so sad, but it's right back at me, maybe its just my hormones but right now feeling very sad too!!

Thanks everyone for reassuring me that my ds is doing OK. I'm new at all of this and it seems the whole world (face-to-face one) has a sleep through the night baby. Glad to hear I am not doing something wrong - sounds like I just have a baby like tribpot's! Will try the pre-feed nappy changing instead of post-feed ones to see if that helps.
Thanks again.

Mummygow, please don't feel sad, please don't go - you only recently had a baby yourself. But I really don't think you should be diluting your baby's milk at 11 weeks. What does GF actually say in her book? (I no longer have a copy for various reasons)

its not really about gf its about what I think - I cant believe you all think i'm starving my baby boy - as I said (and I know they are different people) this is how I weaned my dd off her middle of the night bottle, I put my life and soul into my children and my whole day and night are spent making them as happy as possible and I believe that not cutting out the 7am but 4am bottle is best

tipex he didnt cry for an hour - i would never let my baby cry for an hour - when i was putting the bottle in he was spitting it out - he cried for less than 10 mins when put back in his cot, and yes it did provoke a reaction because i want to be the best mum that i possibly can be!!

mummygow, my baby would go longer when he was little than he was older, if you see what I mean. Please don't feel that anyone is having a go at you, it's just that there is a lot of experience out there in MN-land and it's all different. Why would you try and wean off a 7 a.m. feed? Cripes, if I could get mine to think 7 a.m. good, 4 a.m. bad I would be laughing (No, too tired for laughing, chuckling gently).

Stairs, for your sake I hope you don't have a little one like mine! But re: nighttime playing, when I have taken him into bed with me and resolutely pretended to be asleep I've found he's gone back off very quickly and for AGES. I found that as he got more active in the day - baby bouncer and rolling and what have you, he gradually got used to taking more by day and less by night, although Infant Gaviscon has been a big help for us too for the reflux.

Er, we all want to be the best mum we can be, I'm not sure that is achieved by being controversial .. unless you are Madonna?!