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How to get my 12 week old DD to go to sleep!

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WeeAl · 28/11/2011 14:22

HELP!!!

He's never been great at napping during the day and going down at night but he's recently had a cold/ chest infection and things have now gone from bad to worse.

The usual routine is that he will go down for about 30-45 minutes at bedtime and then wake up and unable to get back to sleep. Last night rewoke at 8 and was still awake after 9.30. The same thing happens at nap times - sleeping for 10-30 mins then waking still tired. Have tried everything I can think of - blackout blinds, swaddling, shushing, lullabys, music, white noise, crying it out (was sick one time when left for >15minutes). Someone told me that this is due to waking from first sleep cycle and that I should try stirring him about 30mins into his sleep (if he reaches that far) but this doesn't seem to work either! He will settle/sleep with a dummy but as soon as it hits the cot he wakes and starts crying again. Would obviously prefer if he learnt to soothe himself!

This lack of sleep means that he's knackered by bedtime and really quite difficult to get him to stay awake for feeds often in the morning. He goes off to sleep quickly in car/pram/sling and same thing happens after 45 mins of sleep but he can usually go back off to sleep easily afterwards.

Should I just persevere with the cry it out technique or is this wildly inappropriate for his age? He has now been crying for more than half an hour at his afternoon nap and still not settling...

I know I shouldn't complain as was going thro the night (once we finally got him off to sleep after 9pm) until I woke him at 7am for a feed (often knackered and too tired to feed). Hasn't been going thro night for last week but this is likely due to having the cold.

HELP!

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TanteRose · 28/11/2011 14:27

CIO is wildly inappropriate! please don't leave him to cry Sad

can you get a sling and have him nap in that?
he will be soothed by being near you...

also, try co-sleeping at night - or making sure the cot is warm. He might be getting cold in the night and waking up.

the No-Cry Sleep Solution is a book that might be useful

good luck - it won't last forever Smile

SenoritaViva · 28/11/2011 14:37

Too young to be left crying alone. Really at this age the only time I'd leave my DC to cry was if I needed to go for a pee or to get DH to tell him to take over (or if he wasn't there just 2 minutes as 'respite' and I mean 2 minutes not 2 mins that are actually 15).

Agree with other poster, get him used to sleeping in the day (think of it as teaching him how to) but using the methods that do work for him (sling, pram etc.) as I reckon that he's so overtired at bedtime that he's not able to get to sleep, sort out his daytime sleeps and hopefully this will help his evening bedtime.

Catsu · 28/11/2011 14:40

Perhaps this is the sleep routine that suits him?
My dc3 is 13 weeks and is very similar but I quite like it!
She naps for 10 to 30 mins at s time through the day whenever she fancies (longer if we are in car or out walking) and goes to sleep for the night about 9pm ish then I wake her up at 7am to get us all out in time for school.
I don't push her to sleep more in the day or early evening as I am just happy she sleeps all night :)

WeeAl · 28/11/2011 16:23

SenoritaViva, I totally agree, he's completely overtired! It seems to have gotten into a bit of vicious cycle during the time that he was unwell and now can't catch up on the sleep that he's lost because he's so exhausted and now can't get to sleep.

Don't you think that I need to teach him to settle himself? At the moment he's settling himself with a dummy until it falls out of his mouth. I'm going mad having to put it back in his mouth constantly - he is clearly now learning that he can't sleep without it. If I'm forced to constantly wheel him in pram or carry him in a sling, he surely won't be able to ever go to sleep without this?

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