How to get baby to sleep for DP?

[BroomForMyChin]

DD - 4 months - has recently decided that she only wants me at bed time. DP has tried getting her to sleep but she screams but stops as soon as I hold her. This wouldn't be a problem normally as I put her to sleep all week because DP works fairly late but I was hoping to go my works Xmas do in December but don't feel like I can leave her if she's going to scream for hours and not sleep. Any suggestions?

Bump

Yep! My daughter definitely doesn't like it when I tell daddy to put her to bed. She is now 10 months. It's just what she is used to and obviously made worse by breastfeeding which he can't do.

Here's what I say: firstly she is better if I'm not here at bed time as crying doesn't work to get me upstairs if she knows I'm out. Secondly I make sure he puts her to bed at least a couple of times a week - she can like it or not, she's with someone who loves her as much as me and if nothing else it helps him learn tricks for soothing her that work for him. Finally I ask him to be a bit more resilient with her - rather than letting her hear him telling me she is not happy I say to him stick with it as I have bad nights with her too. She won't cry and cry with her daddy ... All that said the first time I got my night out she was 8months but it's been ok since. Good luck and it will be ok

I'd recommend for you to get out of the house at bedtime: go to the shop, for a walk or a quick drink with a friend. That way your DP will not have you hovering around (in the nicest possible way), can take time to have a nice cuddle and put her to bed. And if it doesn't work straightaway, DP will have time to persist without reverting to you. You are only a phone call away if it really doesn't work in which case you come back, put her to bed and REPEAT the whole thing the next evening.
Your DP will feel on top of the world when they manage to do it (and it probably won't take long).