We're very lucky that my 19-week old DS is a brilliant sleeper through the night (so far) - 7pm to 7am without a problem and barely a peep from her when I lay her down. At night, I give her a bath, a quick massage, dim the lights, BF her, wind her thoroughly and lay her down awake.
But I'm really struggling with daytime napping. I try to get her to nap in her cot three times a day, usually 1.5 hours to 2 hours after she last woke as she starts to look tired/rub eyes/stare into space etc. Usually 9-ish, 12-ish and 3-ish. At this point I take her up to her cot, draw the curtains, put her in her sleeping bag, put the music from her mobile on and kiss her on the forehead to say 'have a nice nap'. Sometimes, she'll quietly go off and sleep for 45 mins or so. Others, she will cry, and cry, and cry.... to the point that sometimes I'll crack and just take her out in her buggy to drift off.
I KNOW that she's tired! So what's different about daytime napping? Is it possible she just doesn't need to sleep as much as other babies? I don't want to start BF-ing her to sleep or creating bad habits, and I know a certain amount of grizzling is required before babies sleep, but I hate to leave her properly crying for longer than 20 mins or so. I wouldn't mind, but I hate to see her over-tired and grumpy when she hasn't napped.
Any tips/advice much much appreciated.