DS aged 6 says he is knackered all the time due to his dd aged 9 months!

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Well thats it really! We live in a 2 bed house and ds insisted that we move dd into his room when she was about 6 months as he was getting nightmares. She does reassure him and his sleep has been fine but she is waking him up almost daily before 6am! He insists he wants her to stay with him. DH and I thought she was waking for milk and have now cut all night feeds but she still wakes at night usually only twice but she is pretty hard to settle. We do feed her to sleep at 7pm which may be part of problem but it has always worked! During half term we basically let dd cry herself to sleep if she woke. She settled quickly and easily for this and was not in distress. Since however she started waking earlier and earlier and being more noisy. DS sleeps through the most awful racket at 2am but past 4am it always wakes him up and he can't go back to sleep. It is this which is having the negative effect. We have now tried a type of controlled crying, where we go in pick dd and cuddle for about 2-3 mins then return at intervals but just pat. Usually we don't get past the first pat but she fights it much more at 5.15 than in the middle of the night. By that time ds is usually awake and I think well we have to be up at 7am for school run anyway! I have also tried whisking dd away to ensure ds gets his sleep but am worried this will encourage stupid o clock waking! Any advice? x

Blimey after reading some of the posts on other threads perhaps I shouldn't have mentioned CC here! I go in at 5 mins then 10-15 mins ish if needed. Can't leave it much longer than that. She definitely settles better with the reassurance I am there (no shit sherlock, I know!) but does sometimes wake 10 mins later and the whole cycle needs starting again...

No advice really but watching avidly. I've gone down the opposite route with my 9 month old in our 2-bedroom house, she's still in with us and I still feed her at night to avoid waking my older child who is a light sleeper. I also take her downstairs and rock her to sleep if she's getting noisy. I'm hoping she'll grow out of it, I don't have a plan really. You must be exhausted, I know I am!

Yes it is exhausting! Good luck to you Appleandblackberry. I was just worried dd would never/take along time to get out of it with your rote appleandblackberry but totally understand why you do it. Last night was an improvement. DD woke at normal times around 11 and 5 and selled after 1 pick up and cuddle both times. I feel better as I feel i am responding to her and giving her some comfort and she is obviously happier to be settling more quickly. DS did stir at 5ish but went back to sleep so both children happy this morning! Will see how it goes though x

Same here. DD 8 mo just does not settle on her own. She used to when she was smaller but I daren't leave her to cry cos DS 4yo is a really light sleeper and I am terrified that she will wake him (even though in different rooms) as she is VERY loud. Once he is awake he is awake!

I keep thinking I will soon be brave enough to stop the breastfeeding to sleep and the rocking but I have no idea when I will eventually do it.

I told myself when pregnant that I would definitely do different to DS but I have found myself doing exactly the same with her! Rod and own back come to mind!