HELP!!!! 6mo screaming the house down right now & DH is about to lose it

[DMCWelshCakes]

Briefly, DiddyCakes moved into his own room yesterday & screamed for 2 hours when we put him to bed. Initially he went down fine tonight but is now awake & hysterical again. DH is begining to get annoyed with him which I don't think is helping.

So far we've tried shushing & rocking but each time he hits the mattress DS gets furious & starts screaming again.

HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!

leave him in the cot for a few minutes while you both have a cup of tea/swig of wine. then decide if you want to pursue the issue, or leave it for a month or so and see how it goes then.

our little boy did the very same thing at 7 months and we agonised over it! after 2 nights of crying and no sleep until we gave in at midnight we just brought him back into our room. He was ready at 11 months and went into his own room for longer and longer periods. I wish we hadn't worried about it, we all slept better when we did what he needed! The reason I worried was that friends said their children slept so much better after they moved into their own rooms. Go with your instincts and good luck

p.s. try spending daytimes in there together, play lots and eventually it will feel like a safe and happy place to be

I've sent DH downstairs as he was just making things worse. I'm now sat on the floor of DiddyCakes' room feeding him. For now at least he's quietish.

He's outgrown his moses basket so has to move really. I've put rolled up towels under the sheet down the sides of his cot to make it feel more snug for him in case he's freaked out by the space but no joy so far.

He's stopped feeding so I'm cwtching him at thje moment. He's still crying, but not screaming like before.

Last nigyht we did cwtching, shushing & feeding but it took 2 hours & I hate seeing him all upset like thuis.

Excuse typos - using left hand & DiddyCakes is thrashing about. :(

Cuddle him to sleep. Take him into your bed if you need to. tell your DH to stop being a knob. Second the suggestion about spending time in the room during the day, if he went in the room for the first time yesterday not surprising he was unsettled. Please tell me you didn't leave him to cry for 2 hours yesterday.

x posted. Is there no room for his cot in your room?

Or can you sleep in his room with him to reassure him?

lislou t5he stupid thing is that he's been napping in his cot & playing imn it for weeks 5to prepare him for this. He's alsop had every nap[py change at home in here for the last few months.

Personally I would send DH downstairs as baby will pick up his stress,make sure baby is fed and comfortable etc then put in cot and stay there beside him stroking his head till he settles.

No Georgie we diodn'tn leave him to scream. He was screaming whilst being held. His cot's too big for our room & weighs a ton so woud be very difficult to move.

I think I may ewll hgave to bed down in here tonoight.

If he's been napping happily in his cot then it is possibly a coincidence that he has been unsettled for the last couple of nights, the cause could be something else entirely. Have you taken his temperature - is he teething? Is the room noticeably colder or warmer than he is used to?

Why is your dh getting the arse with a 6 month old baby?

Has he completly outgrown his moses basket? I only ask as we first put ds1 in his cot, in his moses basket ( sitting moses basket on matress) IFYSWIM, this really helped and after a few nights he moved to a cot between rolled up sheets as you describe.

Has your DH been trying every night? Maybe that's why he's screaming. It is hard to stay calm sometimes but your DH needs to remember this is a baby.

When we moved DS to his own room, one of us slept in with him. He was also in a sleep bag and we put breathable cot bumpers up (airwave wrap) which cannot be climbed on and don't have ties. We also had white noise on low as background noise.

You should focus on getting him to sleep by any means and worry about self settling until he's used to being in there.

Georgie He is teething at the moment & there's also chicken pox going round our group of friends so it could be one of those & just a horrible coincidence.

Top Because DH (like me) hasn't had a full night's sleep in over a year between the nocturnal shenanigins of both DCs & a pregnant wife, has had the week from hell and is human. At the risk of sounding like a Relationships Board cliche, he actually is a wonderful father but this evening he's running on empty. He was also stressing because he was trying to cook dinner & put our 3 year old to bed as well as help me settle DS.

Miss Yes. His head & feet touch the top & bottom. I tried putting him in the basket in the cot but it didn't seem to make much difference as he was so squished.

Teething probably not helping at all then. Are you BFing? If so I would just feed to sleep (I know, knackering and you want to go downstairs and relax) for tonight. Has he had calpol?

Sounds like just a bad coincidence with teething and poss chicken pox, sounds like calpol and another bad night!! Good Luck

I think DH has just had enough of a spectacularly shitty week. He's now had some food & popped his head round the door to check we're ok.

I've managed to get DiddyCakes back into his cot & at the moment he's not crying. His breathing's not back to normal yet though as he's been so upset so I'm still camping on his floor with the laptop.

Iggly He's got an NCT CD on with a heartbeat in the background that's supposed to soothe them to sleep & is snuggled up in his sleeping bag. I think you're right about getting him to sleep by any means & worrying about the rest of it later. Especially as we're going away for a week in a few weeks & that'll arse up any routine anyway.

I am glad to hear that about DH DMC.I was a bit concerned that people were being a bit tough on him but was a tad nervous to suggest that maybe he's tired

Poor little lad with his teeth!

Just finished feeding him & given him some calpol.

Once I'm sure he's asleep I'm going to go find a sleeping bag & pillow so I can camp in here. I have a nasty feeling it's going to be a long night.

Have you eaten DMC? If not take DS downstairs with you while you do.

Once he's asleep,have some food, and some sleep while you can,I reckon.

Let DH have as good a nights sleep as he can,and hopefully at some point tomorrow you can pop off for a kip.

Countess DH likes to come home & be a hands on dad but as a result sometimes he walks into a whirlwind of screaming children, snot & toddler defiance. DiddyDragon (age 3) has got some random kiddie plague at the moment which makes her cough so she's in a foul mood & not sleeping well as she keeps waking herself up. She's also 3, so not big on doing what she's told at all times.

DH tried to solve all problems simultaneously & got himself tied in knots. That's the danger of marrying an engineer - they like logical answers to problems that are then solved. Tragically, the children have decided that this is far less fun than chaos, panic & disorder, not to mention moving the blasted goalpoasts every time we think we've got a grip on things. :)