Please help, I feel like I'm going insane...quite long

[ScarletLadyOfTheNight01]

I could really do with some advice I feel like I'm going mad. This is quite long, so I appreciate anyone willing to read it.

I have a DD who is 11 months old. While she's never slept right through the night she's always been an OK sleeper. She'll normally wake for one or two feeds and then settle straight back to sleep. Sometimes she'll wake around 5am and come in with us so we can get a little more sleep.

However recently everything's gone crazy. She's been a nightmare to settle for her naps, and at night, whilst she'll settle OK at first (bedtime is between 6.30 and 7pm) she wakes between 9 and 10 and then will NOT settle until I take her to bed...which basically means my husband is sent to the sofa as our bed's not big enough. I wouldn't have a major problem with this as a short term solution but she's so unsettled, waking every hour, moving around constantly that I'm getting NO sleep at all.

This is a relatively recent development but I'm so tired I feel I'm going crazy, I can't concentrate (it's taking me ages to write this), I burst into tears doing the washing up this morning. I'm being short tempered with DD which I hate as I know she's not doing this deliberately.

I feel like I'm failing as a mother and she's not settling because she's unhappy or something.

We've recently moved, which I know is a big upheaval so I was expecting a bit of a problem, but after a few days she seemed to settle down fine, and was totally fine for a few weeks, but now this!

She doesn't seem to want milk, she'll have an oz or so and then just push the bottle away so I don't think it's a growth spurt or anything. I don't think she's teething as I've tried all the standard remedies for that, including calpol etc

Even though I know she's a little under the recommended age for controlled crying I'm seriously considering trying it. I never thought I would as I hate listening to her cry and struggle to leave her.

Does anyone have ANY advice at all? Anything would be appreciated, I'm at my wits end.

It's a phase, it will pass. That's my only advice, sorry!

DD had similar problems at 12 months and 18 months (which we've just come out of).

I can't do controlled crying personally so I just ride it out.

She might be going through a big developmental stage - is she working on crawling or walking? DD was learning to walk at 12 months and I think the recent problems have been due to learning a lot more words. There is lots of info about this on the internet.

It's awful when you're in the middle of it though!!

She has just started pulling herself up on things, and is starting to walk round things while holding on to them. I guess that could be the issue.

I don't think I'd be able to do controlled crying myself either. I cave after a couple of minutes if she's upset, my husband's the same.

I was hoping it was a phase, she's always been pretty good at sleeping (although I do have barely concealed wild jealousy of people with tiny babies who sleep right through). If I could afford a king-size bed we'd just co-sleep as neither of us mind her in the bed, it's just with all her wriggling she'd kick us both out I think (she's a rather lanky thing).

DD has settled down now but still wakes in the early hours and refuses to go back in cot so she comes into our bed - usually resulting in DH going off to the spare room! I need a king size too - we're going to look in January!