Bedtime times

[verybusyspider]

all mine (5.5 yrs - yr1, 3 - almost 4yrs - at nursery/preschool, 2.5 yrs - at nursery and still has nap) go to bed at 7pm - couple of people recently seemed supprised that all had same bedtime (they share a bedroom so makes it easier for us too) just being nosey - I'm sure its been done before - but when do yours go to bed? and at what age did you change it?

ds (5) goes to bed at 7.45pm on school nights and 8.30pm at the weekend
dd (8) goes to bed at 8.15pm on school nights and 9pm at the weekend.

They have always had staggered bedtimes (although the time has changed over the years) but do not share a room.

DS 15 months - goes to bed at 8.00.
Am pg with the next one so was wondering myself about the best way to work it when you have two. I would imagine the same time is just easier. That is, until they get old enough to cotton on to the idea that the eldest may be being hard done by having the same bedtime as a younger sibling!

so at 5 then may other children do go to bed later - they all have to be up at 6.30am - even have to wake them sometimes ds1 is so tired though the other day he was asleep at 6.30pm.... he loves his sleep always has done - I guess I leave it till he complains!

did you move older dc's bedtime or did they naturally do it?

ds tends to get up around 7am and I quite often have to wake dd at 7.30am if she is not already awake. I moved their bedtime when my sister made me feel guilty for putting them to bed so early even at the weekend (used to have the same bedtime time whether during the week or at the weekend) - was between 7 and 7.30pm.

Mine are aged 9 (yr5) and 7 (yr3) and only just (in last year) started going to bed at 8pm. Separate rooms, but eldest prob needs more sleep and doesn't know any better seem to mind. Bed time was 7pm before and has gradually got later. Might stay up later occasionally (eg school holidays). I know their friends probably go later, but they are really grumpy and can't get up otherwise! And to be honest, I want a child-free evening for as long as I can get away with it!

3 and almost 1 - both go to bed at 6.30. The baby goes in the cot to sleep pretty much bang on 6.30, then we do a few more stories etc with the 3 year old for about 10 minutes.

I actually moved the 3 years old's bed time earlier when we started to get into established sleeping patterns with the baby (when they stop waking every few hours) and it's really worked for us; less grumpiness etc. She gets up at the same time as when she was going to bed at 7.30 p.m.

We all go upstairs together at 7pm, do teeth and stories, then I leave 4yo DD and nearly 6yo DS1 to play quietly (they share a room) while I try to settle 2yo DS2 (who is supposed to go to sleep at 7.30pm but is currently being a bit of a monkey about it!) in his cot.

Lights off for the older 2 at 8.30pm (earlier if they are tired).

DD needs more sleep than DS1 (not just because she is younger - he has always needed less), but DD still has a nap most days (she is in pre-school mornings only) so it works. She is a good sleeper who will happily sleep through noise, light etc, so when she drops her nap I expect she will just start falling asleep earlier than her brother. I'm not planning to do a deliberate 'he goes to bed 30 mins later than her' unless I have to.

I know a close friend of mine who is 18m older than her sister and always felt v hard done by that they had to go to bed at the same time - still moans about it to this day!

My nearly 12 month old goes at 7pm and my 5 yr old twins get themselves ready for bed while I'm putting the youngest to bed. I then read stories for older 2 and then they can read for a while themselves but their light's out for 745. Same bedtimes weekdays and weekends as they just get too tired and can't get up in the mornings otherwise. Find if I let them stay up late say on a Saturday night they end up sleeping late on the Sunday and are a nightmare on the Sunday night and exhausted on a Monday

To be honest I wouldn't bother with what other people do. If your eldest needs waking or is tired then he needs his 7pm bedtime. I had a 7pm bedtime until I was around 7yo!

My 3yo, btw, has a 7pm bedtime - actually she needs to go earlier but logistically I can't manage it, as I'm still having to wake her up in the morning (7am on a weekday, though this weekend morning we didn't have to wake her and she woke naturally at 8.30am!!!).

my 11yr old goes at 8pm

the 6 and 4 yr old go at 7pm

the little two share a room

DD1 (almost 4) and DD2 (17 months) both go to bed at 7pm, sometimes 6.30pm if it's been a busy day-they wouldn't manage any later and both sleep till 7am. More time for [tea] that way!