Sitting up

[ComradeJing]

Dd is now 10 months. After sleep training her (not cc or CIO- just sat with her but made her stay in her cot and patted/shh'd her) she was sleeping very well.

However, once she could sit and then stand her sleep has gone to pot and I don't know how to deal with it. Before I could just sit in the chair by her cot until she fell asleep and was getting ready to do gradual withdrawal. Now I have to sit Right by the cot with my hand on her to prevent her sitting up. As she wants my hand on her all night she has started waking frequently through the night and I hate it.

I want to be able to sit next to her cot again so she knows I'm there but not have to touch her. Do I just keep lying her down every time she sits up even if that takes two hours or just leave her to cry as im sitting next to her and wait for her to lie down?

Thoughts please....

I would probably try lying her down and leaving the room tbh. If she gets upset I'd go back in and lie her down, tell her it's time to sleep and leave. If you have a partner take turns to do it. My daughter went through phases like this (sitting/standing) and they usually passed quickly. She would not have settled with me in the room though.

The problem is she howls and then gets more worked up the second I leave. She has never fallen asleep without me in the room.

I am going through exactly the same with DS (almost 9 months). He was self settling brilliantly until a few days ago, when he learned how to pull himself up to standing. It took me 1.5 hours to settle him last night, after the 4am feed!

I haven't done CC or CIO either, and like your DD he gets hysterical if I try to leave the room. So I just went back to square one, I am rocking him until he is very sleepy and then put him down, most times he goes to sleep. He doesn't like to be cuddled to sleep anymore but after holding him for a few minutes I can actually feel him relax, he actually sighs...

It was similar for us when he started roling and then crawling, he was obsessed with it, was practicing all night(!) but after 2-3 weeks it got better. It was as if he knew he could do it now, so no need to practice anymore, IYSWIM.

YY bankholiday, same boat.

DD loves being cuddled to sleep however and holding my hand as she sleeps. I love it but I wish she self settled.