Co-sleeping issues, any advice?

[MotherPanda]

My 3 month old DD has a cot at the end of the bed, but often we end up co-sleeping if I've fallen asleep feeding her at bedtime or in the night etc (She spends about 50/50 in each a week)

The problem I'm having is that I'll wake up (usually in a pool of milk) and find the duvet has gone over her head as me or dh have pulled it up. - she's always been fine, but it scares me each time.

How do other co sleepers deal with this? Also, what should she be wearing? Sleep suit and sleeping bag on top of the duvet, or just a sleepsuit under with us?

Also- we are looking at buying a new bigger bed, are certain mattresses deemed safer for co-sleeping, I love memory foam but am concerned as it means you sink in a bit.

Thanks

We avoid using a duvet which I think is the official advice. DS wears 1 layer more than us but thrashes so much he never gets any covers anyway!

Ah ok, so long winter duvet,- so blankets and sheets are better.

I think she wiggles down in the night, i sleep with my arm above her so she can never wiggle up.

i keep him on top of the duvet, even without a sleeping bag he's still really warm on top. i did have a way of holding the duvet down as i lie on my side but i can't describe it - he's now a big wriggler so sleeps in the middle, on top of the duvet with his head on my arm.

I have DD in a light sleeping bag and have my duvet sort of up to my waist but tucked under my hip so it can't go over her. If I'm cold I drape my (warm, fluffy!) dressing gown over my top half.

Thanks, tucking blankets under me seems to be a good idea, will start to feed dd with me under and her over the blanket too. only have summer sleeping bags too

i wrap my duvet round like a sleeping bag and only up to my waist. i wear long sleeved tops in bed.

You and dh could have single duvets with baby in the middle?

However I always coslept with the bed as normal but pulled the duvet down in the middle just covering baby's torso. I would sleep curled on my side with my one arm wrapped round baby preventing the duvet moving up. It meant I didn't move all night but worked for us. Ds just in a sleepsuit as ambient body warmth from us meant he was fine.

Bigger bed helps- we have super king size. And very often dh scarpers to the spare room as I didn't want his 5am alarm training ds to wake at 5am!

And definitely wear long tops so u don't get cold. I found proper button up pyjama tops best as u can unbutton from bottom and have minimal skin exposed when feeding.

At the moment I've got the duvet pulled to the side so there is an "empty" bit of bed for dd. I wear a trackie top in bed and have the duvet tucked under my waist. Dh quite often kicked out as he is a chronic snorer but if he is here i am between him and dd.

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