9 month old will only nap on me?? Advice please?

[ledkr]

Hi,Im just wondering what others have done to rectify this,i know its a common problem.
DD 9 months sleeps well at night 7-6 sometimes has some milk at 2ish sometimes doesnt.
Daytime naps are non existent and its spoiling her day as she's so tired and grumpy,often cant be botherd to eat and is too exhausted to move about safely.
She will fall asleep on me or dh but if you try to put her down she wakes immediately and will not be settled.We have tried the pram,cot,sofa but she still wakes up immediately.
At bedtime she feeds to sleep but is totally unrousable and doesnt stir as we carry her up to the cot,the same if she feeds in the night.
Has anyone had any success with changing this.

Hi I know it seems hard but honestly I would love DD 7.5months to sleep during the night like that : ) But seriously, I thought DD only wanted to sleep on me/DH for naps, and it was starting to cause a problem with night time wakings as well, then when I started making sure I put her in bed awake I noticed she turned over and then fell asleep. So, as much as I know it's a cot death no-no, I now put her in bed on her stomach. It seemed like that was what she wanted, not just to be on us. You could also try putting a hot water bottle in the cot so she doesn't notice the change so much going from you to the cot, also at the beginning I used to leave my arms around her in the cot for a little bit before properly letting go. Good luck

Thanks,i am very gratefull for the good nights-we had our share of bad ones believe me Its the difference between night and day that i find a bit
She used to self settle really well but got into the habit of feeding to sleep when she had reflux and had to be kept upright after her feeds thus fell asleep in arms.
I have tried putting her down awake now we dont have to do that but she gets so upset and i didnt want to make negative associations with her cot iyswim.
Maybe im just destined to sit with her while she sleeps in the day,ill have to make sure my lap top is with me.

I had this. Basically I would put DS down (he'd be in a grobag) after 15-20 mins then over time, I'd put him down after shorter periods until I could put him down once asleep. It took a few weeks and there were plenty of backward steps. After a while I was then able to settle him in his cot. It was a long process but I was not prepared to let him cry as naps were more important than how he got there.
Sometimes if I got the timing right I could get him to self settle quickly.
He slept on his front from 6 months BTW.