Ds started school in sept, at the same time I found out I was expecting dc3, hormonal I was anxious about the arrival of a 3rd and at 8 wk I mc.
I mc 2 days before ds started school so I guess you can imagine how I was. A wreak at what I had been through over the last week. It also hit me about ds starting school and has resulted in counselling.
At the time I took comfort from ds (and ds) and enjoyed the hour before bedtime by us all getting into my bed and watching tv.
Dh also works away 2-3 days a week so I guess at this time I also liked the company of my lo's.
It was at this time that ds started to insist on sleeping with the light on.... well not just the light BUT his main room light, projector, nightlight, onsuite light,mainbathroom light and landing light 
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We try to explain that all this light doesn't give him good sleep quality but he won't have it any other way.
We can kind of cope with that............ BUT since starting school he wakes EVERYNIGHT between 1.30am-2.30am and tries to get into our bed.
Sometimes I don't notice till the morning and othertimes I can heard the patter of his feet on the landing and stop him right away!
He will either get back into bed himself or he will create in our room nearly waking dd (6).
AND almost every morning he wakes and gets into our bed fidgeting till its wake up time or we give in.
Various reasons are given, he is hungry, cold poorly etc.
ds was an ill baby at birth (medical condition) so I have started to leave him a biscuit in his room for the morning in the hope this will help iykwim BUT he usually get into our bed EATING the biscuit !
what do I do..?
if its beed a disturbed night we all wake cranky and tired and ds can't seem to understand why.. HELP!!