7mo waking hourly.....

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Need more advice - sorry.
We're still co sleeping as DS was resisting his cot and we tried PUPD about 2 months ago but he was getting hysterical. Now he is unsettled even when sleeping with us and demanding permanent breast feeding! I'm his dummy and he screams when he realises the dummy has gone.... We were just hoping this would get better with time and getting him used to small periods in cot, he has managed a couple of hours nightly but once he wakes he gets hysterical if we try and put him back. We try shush pat etc to no avail.
Spoke to HV yesterday, she said he should not be needed any feeds overnight now, 1 maximum. Also advocated CC or trying PUPD again.
I do want to teach him to SS and am worried he's not getting enough rest.
Any thoughts please? He is our PFB and I'm an older mum who feels blessed to have him after a tricky time, so we're not the best candidates for CC I think. DH is possibly less able to hear him cry than me. We are all tired now, if he wasn't so unsettled we would have been happy to co sleep for longer I think, Until I stop bf which I plan to do until he is 1 year.
Oh and I am returning to work PT soon!!
Help please :)

Hi there
You sound just like me and my dh 2 months ago, tried everything to get our son to sleep in his cot and stay asleep, resisted cc until this week when I was literally at the end of my tether, just wish I had started it a couple of months back now. Bought the book solve your baby's sleep problems by dr richard ferber, and so far so good.

I cried lots the first night as I hate to hear him cry, it goes against my instincts not to pick him up and cuddle him, but you can now see such a difference, and while he is still waking in the night ( but only 1 time last night) he is settling himself back to sleep without our help.

My advice is to be strong and stick with it once you start. I had to keep telling myself that being able to sleep without help and settling on his own was in his best interests in the long run. I know others will say it is cruel etc, and I agree that leaving babies to cry it out is, cc is different but I think it is sometimes confused with that...

Good luck with whatever you do, only you know what's best for you and your family

Thank you for your message, we are going to try PUPD. Our darling baby is asleep at the moment, wish me strength and resilience :) I know he needs more rest and so we will try this with the best intentions.