6wk old dd slept 11 til 6 last night - but did I cheat?

[Moomin]

... because she slept with me? She's a lot clingier than dd1 ever was and just does not like sleeping in her moses unless she's completely knocked-out tired. Even then, she'll wake in the night making grunting noises and widgeting which she stops if I lift her into bed with me.

At what point does this behaviour (by me) becoem 'spoiling' her? I know with newborns it's best to go with instincts (unless you're GF!) and it feels ok at the moment but when should we 1) put her up to bed during the evening instead of her being with us downstairs?
2) try to leave her in her moses no matter how much she protests? We're planning to have her in our bedroom until at least after christmas, anything up to 6 months.

btw she sleeps well in the day and if in her pram/carseat and on the move will sleep constantly

moomin - i don't think there is a right or wrong, as you point out, just what feels right to you

also, i firmly believe there is no such thing as "spoiling" a new born - they've made an incredible journey, and everything you can do to make them feel safe and loved, as well as help you bond and get to know your baby, is a GOOD THING

personally, i would be tapering off the sleeping in the same bed, but that's only because i was always scared of failing asleep on my baby

could you put the moses basket right next to your bed, and perhaps put the tshirt you have worn during the day in with her to lie on? then she will have your smell, and also be within a foot of you ????

the moses is right next to the bed. I've tried a snuggle toy with her which i kept down my bra for a while! and also a cot sheet which i slept with for a couple of nights but after the initial sleep where we put her down she wakes again and starts complaining.

its so hard to know why they are complaining at 6 weeks of age - how about a pacifier? perhaps she can comfort herself that way

or not - perhpas you are perfectly happy with the way things are - i don't know much about co-sleeping as early on i decided it wasn't for me - but perhaps there is a mum on the net who knows the pros and cons who can help you out

good luck

ps. our second is due tomorrow, so i guess i'll be on hear in six weeks with similar questions

ooo good luck with baby koala! how exciting! I'll look out for your announcement

I agree with 006! I don't think you overdo closeness. I am sleeping with my newborn - it makes her much happier and more settled and she is so scrummy and cute that I don't know which one of us I am indulging the most.

it could be a moses basket thing our dd1 would sleep anywhere and i mean anywhere but her moses basket she hated it, she was in the big cot in our room from 1day!!! and number 2 is in our bed most nights

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Dont think I could have had Ds in bed with me as I found it hard to get comfy from c section anyway and was in some pain. Ds slept in his moses basket in our room until he was 4 weeks old, then we moved his moses basket into the cot.

We then started a routine of putting him to bed at 6pm. He protested at first by crying (well more like winging and snuffling)

He usually woke at 2am on the dot for a feed and then at 4.30am for a feed.

I would feed him in bed and have a cuddle, then put him back to bed, which he didnt like if he was awake (used to hope he would fall asleep feeding!)

When he was 7 weeks he was sleeping through from 6pm to 6am - and still does.

i'd keep cuddling!

GRRRR at you moomin! If it wasnt for the fact DH would roll on Becky, I would do the same thing!

Im just back from driving around for 30 minutes to get Becky to go to sleep - she has had 1hr 45 mins ALL DAY! Thank god she is asleep now, but she is loving her cuddles FAR too much!

Well done for getting her to sleep through - no matter how you acheive it!

i'm sure mil is petrified I'm going to roll on dd2 as well! I've got her on quiet a firm pillow on my side of the bed and i sleep with my arm around the top of the pillow and my other arm touching her legs so I know she won't fall out. she's also slightly tilted towards me but I can't roll on her as she's up a slight level from me. It's actually easier for me after my c-section. it was killing me to keep having to sit up in bed to see to her in her basket. well, we'll see how she goes tonight....