3yo waking 3 times a night

[Amberc]

It's been about 3 weeks now since my ds (3 in a couple of weeks) has started waking at least 3 times a night. He screams and shouts for mummy and then when I ask him what's wrong he says I don't know or just 'cuddle'. He also gets up and comes into me. At about 5am. I have tried leaving him to cry which is awful and hasn't worked. Ive tried the silent go in settle and leave method. I know the cause is my 4 mo twins although they both sleep through. He's obviously a bit traumatised but I do need to deal with it somehow. Any suggestions? I'm so desperately tired it's making me depressed and affecting my relationship with my boy

Our DS (3.1) was a rubbish sleeper and came in our bed every night, purely out of habit and wanting a cuddle. A fee weeks ago we decided to try a reward chart to bribe him to stat in bed, and from the very first night it worked. He has stayed in his bed every night fpr 4 weeks now. Sometimes he wakes and I go to him but he settled quickly again, other nights he sleeps straight through or settles himself if he wakes.

Might not suit everyone but maybe worth a try?

The thing is he remembers nothing the following morning. The 5am bit I can deal with and a reward chart would be great but only really when the 12.30, 1.30 and 3.30am screaming wakes are sorted!

We're having a similar problem with our 3 year old. She has always been a good sleeper, going to bed with no crying and then all of a sudden she has started whining and crying as soon as we walk out of the room at night. All she wants is another/a different toy or another kiss, but the whining can go on for ages. The same thing has started happening right through the night as well, over and over again, which isn't helping any of us to sleep!

Husband has suggested leaving her to cry, but she doesn't seem to be settling herself properly like she has been able to do before. We were wondering if it might be connected to potty training and she's disturbing her own sleep wondering about where she needs to use the toilet. Mostly though she seems to want a toy/cuddle and it doesn't seem to be as a result of bad dreams.

I had thought about starting a reward chart to see if that helps, but any other suggestions appreciated! thx