I want my room back!!!!

[HairyBeaver]

DD is 2.2 years old and the only way she sleeps through is in a travel cot in my room.

Ive tried and failed loads of methods to get her to go through the night in her own room.

The last attempt this week consisted of 1.5 hours stroking her to sleep then her up at 3 and stright in her travel cot. The next night was an hour of stroking then awake at midnight, by 3:40am and after being sick I gave up and put her in the travel cot and she went stright to sleep grrrr

I've tried CC but shes a stubbern mare and after 2.5 hours I gave that up too.

HELP :(

Does she nap in the day? I stopped letting my LO sleep in the daytime.. distracting him with noisy toys and a little food, or a spell in the garden to make sure he was more sleepy at bedtime. Either that or I would make sure if he napped it was before 1pm.. then I would get him running about ALOT before bedtime. That way he would be literally nod nodding as I put him to bed and too tired to protest. I found when he was truly exhausted he'd sleep through longer too. A warmish milky drink to go to bed with helped too. For me and LO.

If I was my mother I'd also be putting a nip of brandy/whiskey in that milk drink. For mum and little one. But thats my mum. I do not suggest drugging your LO's with hard booze. Unless you are really tired that is. (JOKING)

I don't know if this will work for you.. and I really really hope you get your room back. I hate missing out on some proper sleep. So my heart goes out to you sweetheart xxx

Come on mum's - come help HairyBeaver out here!

Thank you ThePFJ, I've tried that tatic and she will sleep though all night if in my room in her TC.

When she's in her room she'll wake multiple times as she wants her way and be in with me in the TC.

Think i'm going to have to stock up on loads of clean bedding and PJ's and be a tough cookie and when she throws up just change her and put her back in her bed eek.

I saw an episode of supernanny which had little one's throwing up to get attention.. and her strategy was to completely ignore it and just quietly clean it up and leave the child be so they know it won't work to get attention. The LO's quickly stopped much to the relief of the mummy involved. Does your LO stay in her bed/cot in her room while she is playing up? I leave a few light up books and quiet toys on the end of my LO's bed and we tell him he must Stay in Bed, whether he is going to sleep straight away or not. I think being tough IS the answer. if she repeatedly messes up her bed then maybe letting her sleep in it to show you aren't going to give her attention is the only way to deal with it.

Talking of Supernanny Jo Frost herself... maybe looking up her stuff online might help.
One nhs help website quotes her saying this:

My three-year-old has started getting up at all times during the night. How can I get her to stay put?

Jo says: "Use my 'Staying In Bed' technique. The first time she gets out of bed, take her back and explain that it's bedtime. Give her a little cuddle, then leave. When she gets up again, put her back to bed and say, 'It's bedtime, darling.' Give her another cuddle and leave.

"The third time, and any other time after that, put her back to bed without saying a word. Make a chart and reward her with a star for every night she stays in bed. Tell her that once she has so many stars, she can have a reward."

XXX

P.S. I think some of the parents on the show trying her Staying In Bed technique did have to suffer a few nights of running up and down the stairs to sliently put their kids back to bed each time.. and its exhausting, but in each case it did work within a few nights of doing it, and the LO's soon settled into the routine.

And a reward doesn't have to be a toy. It can be a day out, or a trip on the bus - anything your LO likes to do.

I so hope you get your sleep soon. xxx

What is she like if she is in her TC in her room?

Maybe she just likes the smaller enclosed feeling of the TC rather than her bed?

I think i'll try the travel cot in her room tonight. Getting her to sleep at bedtime isn't the major problem, it's her waking in the middle of the night because she's not in my room and crying/being sick/playing up for hours in the middle of the night!

I watch SN quite a bit and have tried Jo's technique but no other mum on the show has a child that wakes in the night and stays up for hours just because she's not in my room.

I do feel quite guilty about my previous attempts and think ive been deluding myself in thinking she would let me know when she wanted to go into her own bed.

Don't feel guilty or bad. Its BLOODY HARD raising kids. And when you are tired from lack of sleep and you have a busy day ahead its hard to get everything perfect. I am never perfect. Far from it! Don't be hard on yourself. They grow up really fast.. and soon you'll look back on all this and laugh. No really. Honest. You will.

Well done for your suggestion ChippingIn.
Good Luck xxx