Who deserves the lie in?

[WinkyGirl]

Hello Mumsnet jury please can you tell DH and I which one of us deserves a lie in tomorrow?

Person One:-
Co-slept with two DCs most of last night. Got up 6am prepared milk for DCs, took spouse cup of tea in bed. Left for work 7.15am. Worked until 2pm. Got in and took DC1 to party. Home 5pm. Did DCs dinner/bath. Did stories and put DCs to bed.

Person Two:-
Good night's sleep. Got DCs breakfasted & dressed and spent morning at their Grandparent's house. Grandparents made lunch for all. Did activities with DC2 while DC1 and spouse away at party. Cooked nice dinner for self and spouse for after DCs in bed. Resettled DC1 during the evening.

TIA - any thoughts appreciated!

I'd toss a coin. Both persons seemed to do pretty much same amount...

we would have a split shift or i would just pretend i felt ill

Person one

The person who got the worse nights sleep! Especially if they're expected to get up in the night tonight.

we make a point of neither of us having a lie on as it just leads too resentment in the long run. We linger in bed drinking tea and looking at books with DS until it feels like a reasonable time to get up all toghther and have breakfast. Try it tomorrow- it works for us and prevents all the bargaining and turn taking. After all - you both wanted to have DCs didnt you.xx

Person one

Hmmm, tricky one> i'm going for eprson one as they did a lot of the care on their own - grandparetns are a big help!

we sometimes take it in turns, but more often, i get the first lie in as once I'm up, I'm up. DH has the skill of going back to bed after a couple of hours up and being able to sleep! Also, I get up with the DCs in the night, although he always wakes.

Person 1 but only just I'd say.
Who will get up with DCs tonight in the night if required? I'd say that will be the clincher on who gets it!

Person 1. Person 2 had a goods night sleep!

PERSON 1

Usually person one gets up around 6.30am on a Saturday and person two gets up around 8.30am after cup of tea in bed.
Then on Sunday it is vice versa. So when we have an occasional weekend when one is working it gets tricky.

Having listened to the jury we will do a split lie in. One up first then Two take over so One can return to bed for a snooze.

Thanks for preventing an argument!

We try to make lie-ins fair, but have realised that it leads to resentment and arguements. So what I do is feign coma in the mornings, sometimes accompanied by a plaintful (is that the right word?) "och, please please please get up with them?? pleeeeaaaase?" So he usually grumpily gets up, I get a lie in til 8 and then just cope with his grumpiness for a wee while. I make up for it by getting up with them at least twice a week - and he's grateful!!! Huzzah!

Person one - they had a rotten night and got up early this morning - irrelevant the rest of the list of chores

Person 1. But only if they get up to chiddlers tonight. If person 2 does night duty tonight then it's both or neither imo!

Person 3- ME!

(I really need one btw)

Person one

Person One deals with 90% of night awakenings/co-sleeping but they can cope with 5 hours sleep whereas Person Two needs 8 hours sleep or they feel rubbish. And both are fine with that situation and understanding of each other's different sleep needs.

We might just resort to who pleads most!

Send Person Two to bed now then, job done

Umm person one.(wishes person 2 was still around but own issues)Send person 2 to bed now:)