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Quick survey: How many of you with three month old babies ..............

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snowmummy · 05/05/2011 15:20

..... rock or cuddle your baby to sleep and then put them down?

I ask because my 3 mo dd won't go to sleep on her own and I'm worried she never will! My first 2 dc's were sleeping through the night by this point.

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EMS23 · 05/05/2011 15:25

Mine is nearly 6 months old and I still do...

I'm planning to stop soon, I promise!!!

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snowmummy · 05/05/2011 15:29

Eek Ems I can't do this for another 3 months! Everytime she wakes up one of us has to cuddle her back to sleep - I'm knackered

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EMS23 · 05/05/2011 15:41

To be fair, my DD does sleep through so it's not too much of an issue for me. When her sleep was bad, I used to often fall asleep myself with her on me, which is not good.

sophielouise · 05/05/2011 19:55

My almost 3 month old (10 week) would go to sleep in my arms, but then wake suddenly in the cot and scare herself because she didn't realise where she was. I have to sort of rouse her (after rocking, soothing, feeding etc) and THEN put her in the cot rubbing her tummy so that she knows where she is. This is the only way that works for us so that she doesn't keep waking up.

Zimm · 05/05/2011 20:21

Err 8 months and still doing it...

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snowmummy · 05/05/2011 20:36

Sophie, my dd does that as well. If I roused her though, she wouldn't go back to sleep, she'd yell until picked up. What you're doing is text book - putting her down sleepy but awake so that she learns to settle herself. That's what I'd like dd to do but she's just not getting it.

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CharlotteBronteSaurus · 05/05/2011 20:38

i rock my 6mo old to sleep every time.

she has started sleeping through from 7pm-6.30 and i am therefore reluctant to change a single thing about her bedtime routine.

WorrisomeHeart · 05/05/2011 20:43

There's still time - she's only 3 months! My DS is 6 months and has learnt to self-settle, but I still rock/feed to get him drowsy. However, he settles himself during the night and it's really something that has just come with time. Don't feel too much pressure to stop using what works yet - after all there's still the dreaded 4 month sleep regression to come!

owainsmum · 06/05/2011 12:51

My 14 week DS is usually fed or rocked to sleep then put in his cot, but about a week ago I started the no cry sleep solution, where you put the baby to bed when he's not quite asleep so he learns to self settle. He has gone to sleep on his own a few times previously so he can do it, but I'm trying to get him to do it every time now, which is difficult and if he won't settle I give in eventually and get him to sleep then put him down. It will be better in the long run if he can self settle though so I'm hoping this will start working soon!

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snowmummy · 06/05/2011 15:14

owain, so the no cry sleep solution just means that you put them down sleepy but awake? I have tried this, but she's having none of it. Occasionally during the day she has settled herself for a nap.

Worrisome - I know she'll sort herself out sooner or later. I'm just hoping its sooner

Charlotte, congrats on the sleeping through - its so lovely when it happens and I know what you mean about not changing anything.

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owainsmum · 06/05/2011 16:29

yes, for no-cry you start off by getting her very nearly asleep before putting him in the cot, so she actually finishes going to sleep in there. You may need to put her in and keep your arms around/under her to start with, continuing to rock her gently. If she won't settle, pick her up and start again. Over time you should be able to put her down while she's a bit more awake, so eventually you can put her down awake and she'll go to sleep on her own. I've only been doing this a week and DS has only self settled a few times, usually he is about 95% asleep when I put him in the cot still, so it may be a long process but I don't want to leave him crying and think he's a bit young for that anyway.

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snowmummy · 06/05/2011 20:35

Thanks Owain. So how many times or how long would you put down and pick up again at bedtime before giving in and cuddling to sleep? Perhaps I've not been consistent or insistent enough?

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owainsmum · 07/05/2011 11:40

How many times depends on what time of night it is and how many times he's woken :o but generally I would try 3 or 4 times before giving in. Last night was good though, it was his bedtime and I'd fed him and got him mostly asleep, put him in the cot and he woke up but looked like he might settle so I stayed close by and talked softly to him. He almost went to sleep, but then got agitated and started crying so I picked him up and started again. Next time I got him in the cot he woke again, but looked sleepy so I just stroked his chest and tummy, and spoke softly to him, and he fell asleep :) I couldn't believe he did so well, but then he woke up 5 minutes later. At this point I couldn't do it again, I've got a nasty cold and was exhausted so had to lie down, so I laid on the bed and fed him to sleep. I should have tried to get him to fall asleep in the cot again really but at least he did it once so we made some progress. I know he can do it, I just need to get him to do it every time now, so that bedtime doesn't take all evening!

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snowmummy · 07/05/2011 16:04

Well done to your ds Owain. I decided to give it a go with dd last night and it went surprisingly well. I put her down in the crib with the mobile on and she lay there for a while quite content, then got a bit drowsy. She started crying so I picked her up for a while til she got drowsy again. I put her down again and, hey presto, she went to sleep. I'm hoping this the start of a good thing!

Good luck tonight

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