Two children sharing a room - how to get younger one sleeping through w/o waking older?

[JMumof2]

Due to space restrictions, my nearly 3 yr old and his little brother (nearly 1) share a room. Elder son sleeps wonderfully but little son still wakes at least twice a night (expecting a milk feed). How do I practice tough love (which worked with son one) and carry out controlled crying when I really don't want to wake up my elder son (who is so much harder to settle). Or do I just need to resign myself to the fact that my little son is not going to sleep through ever?!!!

Hi, I also have a three year old (DS) and an almost one year old (DD) who share a bedroom. We ended up putting DD in a travel cot in our room to do a bit of controlled crying when she was 10 months - she was waking up about 5 times a night and me feeding her was the only way to get her back to sleep.

It worked pretty well in that she now sleeps from 7:30 till 5am - but she is still in our room now (she'll be a year old on Mon) as she will just not go back to sleep after 5am and CC isn't working for that wake up

Could you put your little one in your room for a few days or have your older child sleep over for a few nights somewhere?

Have gone through the same thing and I'm afraid I don't have any magical insights to pass on - just wanted to post a response OP.

We used to end up taking DD2 out of the room and into the sitting room to re-settle her back to sleep but this of course meant that she then got used to this as her way of going back to sleep.....its a hard one to call.
Shes ( mostly ) fine now ( 2.5yrs ) so we did manage to work through it. Actually in retrospect, I should of left her to cry longer as DD1 never, ever woke up - but I'm not sure your eldest is such a deep sleeper.
Hang in there - it will work itself out eventually

Thanks both for your thoughts. I had a chat with our health visitor yesterday and she suggested cutting both the feeds down gradually for a start. If this doesn't work, will look at bringing the wee fella in with us to try some controlled crying. Will report back :)