What the hell do I DO with him?!

[MatchsticksForMyEyes]

DS is 11 months. Managed to get him sleeping through at 10 months, but unfortunately it only lasted a couple of weeks. He used to be brilliant at self-settling. I used to be able to feed him, put him down and just walk out. Now I often have to stay and pat him to get him to go off as he just keeps standing back up and yelling.

Now he is waking at night again, keeping going and going until I feed him. I sleep trained him last time doing walk in walk out, but he can seriously keep going for well over an hour now.

Worse than that, sometimes when I feed him, he wakes back up 15 minutes later. So I can't even just feed him and think I've got a couple of hours peace.

I have gone back to co-sleeping out of desperation and fears for my sanity and his safety if I continue to try and get him to sleep independently, but he often latches on and comfort feeds for around an hour and my back problems are returning because of the position I end up sleeping in.

I don't know what to do!

no advice but sympathy
I know co sleeping isn't good for your back atm but if on balance it is helping, carry on and don't worry about the future just get sleep now!
I ahve an 18m old who is dreadful at the moment, and a 4yo who became a good sleeper some time between 2 and 2 1/2 so I am counting down the days!

Oh Matchsticks, my neck aches in sympathy with your back. My 2 yr old had nights when he wakes and that's it. Only bed with mummy will do. He does go straight to sleep once idoesn't. DP doesn't move so I hang onto the side of the bed.
I have no suggestions. My DS has had a tough start in life so co-sleeping ain't the end of the world to me now ( we've tried the usual recommendations). I am presuming he won't be doing it when he's 18.

I wouldn't mind as much if he'd never slept through, but he slept through on night 3 of sleep training and did 6.30-5.30, had a feed, then slept for another hour for those 2 weeks. Even when he had an ear infection! I am going to have to keep co-sleeping for now as whenever I've tried to settle him in his cot I've ended up shouting at him and am close to hurting him at times. So it is the best option for him clearly. I am SO exhausted though, particularly when he just feeds and feeds at night and I can't seem to sleep through it. I must eventually just pass out from sheer exhaustion and I am so snappy with my 3.4 year old in the mornings and it's not very nice for her

It's horrible. I know it's frowned upon but I'd go with co-sleeping for now and try to sort the back problems ( osteopath/ curved pillows/ whatever it takes). And when you are less knackered look at the tactics for things like controlled crying etc. But I think for now get your sleep.

No advise here but I really do feel for you. My two and nearly four year olds don't sleep well at night.

Could it be teeth? I remember my 11 month waking every hour for a feed for a month while his two front teeth broke thru. A month later he started sleeping thru the night (and that was pretty much that!) I did some no cry techniques but just rolled with the hourly waking and it did stop.

Yeah I think he is teething. He has 6 and the bottom ones next to the middle are cutting and I think maybe the first molars too. It must be comfort feeding for it to last so long. He has also started wanting to feed loads in the day too and is so desperate to that whenever I pick him up he bends his head down as if he is trying to latch on through my clothes! I'm loathe to dose him up, but I am effectively a human dummy at the moment.

I feel for you too. We are co-sleeping with our 2 again and have the cot set up next to our bed, with one side off so at least I can sometimes get the baby to sleep in it and then roll back into my bed and get a change of position. That might help your back ? Sorry I can't Advise on how to get your dc back into his cot. I rely on the premise that it's not forever and just enjoy watching them sleep.