okay not literally, but my marriage is suffering, last night my husband threatened to leave. The result of two people suffering daily with extreme lack of sleep, and constantly bickering. Dh apologised in the morning, but things are very difficult.
My Ds is 11 months. As per the title he will wake at around 3 and simply refuse to sleep. For the first hour he's quite awake and would clearly quite like to go and play. The second hour he gets tired but will not settle. Usually the final half hour of torture he spends screaming in my arms.
He's a good eater, no problems eating enough in day. His daytime sleep, I've had to structure to fit in with taking my dd to preschool. So his nap opportunity is 1 to 3. (morning nap went several weeks ago). Sometimes he will have two hours, often only one. Noted that bad nap leads to bad night, but if his nap ends early, he won't resettle.
I don't let him sleep on the boob ( unless I'm at my wits end after many bad nights). I try not to aid him to sleep with rocking, patting etc.
I mainly put him down once calm, and try to get further towards the door!
Problem is, he wakes and stands up immediately. He's not quite cruising, so not walking yet.
So anyhow, up he stands, and if not attended to he will make a huge fuss. So I lay him down, little rub on back. Slowly withdraw. Repeat for two hours.
One last point, he is given a bottle when he wakes at ten. Should this stop, I suspect it's not helping. It used to be a dream feed he was woken for at 10. Now he wakes himself my dh gives him the bottle at that point.
Dh reluctant to stop this, thinks he will just scream for it and that'll be maybe four hours disruption at night instead of two.
Can anyone give me any advice, please? Thanks for reading.