9mo DD dependent on dummy for night time sleep - I could kick myself!

[HollyBollyBooBoo]

Feel like such a moron, DD was a sucky baby and therefore had a dummy but at 5.5 months I got rid of it, she went 'cold' turkey' on dummies and job done....then at 6.5 months she and I were really poorly with a sickness bug, so I gave her a dummy again as a substitute comforter for me (who could barely move), subsequently we've moved back to the UK, so have been knackered with all the moving and have been a totally lazy parent and keep giving her the dummy.

So now of course she is totally dependent upon it to get to sleep at night, what is the best way to get her off of it? I want to get rid because a) I just don't like them on older babies and b) she only likes 1 dummy (not 1 brand, just 1 sole dummy) - to the exclusion of all others and frankly it needs to go in the bin sometime soon!

Help!!!

Same boat here!

My DS (8months) will only have one dummy, its gross! I'm only letting him have it at night now, but will slowly stop...somehow...answers...anyone??!!!!

DD is 21 months and still uses a dummy at nighttime, so I wouldn't worry. She doesn't use it during the day, just as night as a soother, which is what it is designed for.

But if you are determined to wean her off this, you can try explaining to her that she's too big for it (which she probably won't understand) or just cold turkey again. The latter seems the simple, quick-fix solution.

Personally I'm waiting until my DD is a bit older so that she is old enough to understand that she's a big girl now who doesn't need a dummy. Besides, her baby brother or sister will be here by Christmas time. I intend to follow my mums advice: she told me I was a big girl and needed to donate my dummies to my little sister. She later told my little sister that she was a big girl who could leave her dummies on the tree and father Christmas would leave her an extra present. Both were successful, as we were each 2.4 at this point and old enough to understand that we didn't need the soothing anymore.

If its something thats really important to you, then good luck, but personally I'm in no rush.

I do hear you LWW in terms of not being in a hurry but I thought you had to replace dummies every few months, and so I'm worried it'll start disintegrating or something and then I'll be completely buggered!

Went cold turkey again with DD and her dummy, she did cry for about 10 mins on and off and then fell right asleep for 11 hours! So I am hoping that if I can remain strong and not give in tonight then she might be off them again, thank goodness!

well done!! I'm going to give it a go tonight - will prepare myself for lots of tears!! :)

Well done Holly :) If she's not as tired tonight she might not go through as well, but if you persist it will only be a couple of night then it will be sorted - if you give in you will have many more weeks/months/years of faffing with it! Be strong.

LittleWhiteWolf - I'm glad it worked for your Mum (or maybe she's remembering with rose colour glasses ) but I would highly advise against making your DD give them to the baby. I would do it on her birthday, tell her if she leaves them for the Dummy Fairy, the DF will bring her some lovely birthday presents. Get rid before the baby comes and don't do anything that will make her resent the baby even more than she might already would be my suggestion (but appreciate you didn't ask for my opinion!!).

Her morning nap was horrible, she cried for ages, I clearly put her down a bit too early. Afternoon nap was far easier, moaned for about 60 seconds then went off for an hour!

Tonight will be interesting!