Need reassurance

[Chucklecheeks]

i have a 21 week DS who wakes once a night between 2-5 and then goes back to sleep. The later he wakes the longer he will sleep in the morning with out getting in with me for an hour or so for that little extra sleep. Family and friends keep telling me he should be sleeping through. I thought he was doing great but I am starting to doubt myself.
Can someone tell me to pull myself together please?
Also he has a dummy and I am still having to put in back in a few times a night, it's not too bad as he in with me but he is going on his own room soon and I don't fancy getting up and doing the long walk in the middle of the night. I would keep him in longer but my husband can't sleep with the baby in the room so is in the spare room at the moment and it would be nice for him to be back in the same bed. Any idea?

Thanks CC

Don't listen to your family, there is no "should" about when they sleep through. All babies are different :) Only waking once is really good - and the fact he tends to give you a lie in at times as well.

If it makes you feel better, I was a smug mum of a sleeping-through baby at 7 weeks, as soon as he hit the 4 month growth spurt, he didn't sleep through again until he was over 2! TBH I got fed up of all the advice and insinuations that he "should" be doing this or that so I just started saying "Yes he sleeps great" and they stopped bothering me.

As for the spare bed/husband problem, how about earplugs? Or you could do a split shift, if you move the cot to the spare room for now (or the bed/mattress to the baby's room) when you move him, you can start off with DH and then the first time DS wakes for his dummy, you move into that bed for the night. It's not ideal but it might mean you get woken up less. Get your DH to do shifts with the dummy at weekends as well! :)

Or just another suggestion, I think The No Cry Sleep Solution has methods for weaning off the dummy at night time if that would help.

I will have a look at the no cry thanks, i know that he does really well, it's just when you are tired and also have a very active four year old to look after as well you really doubt yourself.

Thanks x

His sleep sounds great, my eldest slept through from the night we moved him into his own room. So, when you feel ready and bearing in mind the SID's recommendations you could try it or a couple of nights and see.

It sounds fine tbh. All babies are different so yes there will be babies who at this age will go through the night.
I think DH using earplugs is a great idea.
If you don't want to get up many times through the night to get the dummy back in his mouth, then you might have to be prepared to wean him off it at some point.