Nap time bother

[prolificwillybreeder]

I have managed to work out the best suited naptime for DS-10 months.

We now go into his dark room at half 9 and I sit in the arm chair and put the relaxing music on.
He falls asleep on me within minutes really. All is well he naps for a good couple of hours and is the happiest I've seen him in months.

The only problem is- I can't put him down. He wakes as soon as I move.
I want to be able eventually to put him down in his cot with some shh-pat as this what I do when I hold him in the chair.

I feel I've replaced one problem with another :(

Have you tried waiting for at least 10 to 15 mins before you put him down as less likely to wake up when in deep sleep? However, even if you do this I would imagine he will wake after 30 to 40 mins and then cry for you because he won't expect to be in his cot!
What do you do to put him in his cot at bed time? Can you follow the same routine at nap time?

Unfortuntely bed time is the same routine but he has a bottle first, he seems to be having some separation anxiety and teething trouble all adding to the problem.
He just will not lie down in the cot! He stands up.

I'm frustrated and when he does wake at night I bring him in with me which has, has to stop!
Last night I sat back in the chair and put him back down after he woke. He stayed there for an hour or so then in with me.

He won't even let me rock him off standing up anymore.

I really don't know what to do. CC just isn't for us, he cries alot when I leave the room during the day let alone at night!

If cc isn't for you then there are other things you could try. But I think whatever you do at nap and bed time you would have to do when he wakes in the night, otherwise it could all get a bit confusing for him. I.e. If he us feeding to sleep at bed time then he will need this to settle again when he wakes in the night.
Something like pick up and put down (comfort him when he gets upset but them put him back in cot once he has stopped and keep doing it until he settles) or shush pat or gradual retreat which would prob help in light of sep anxiety. I would recommend a book called Teach Your Child to Sleep by Millpond Clinic. It has lots of diff solutions and you can pick the one to suit you and DS.
Also, I would just leave him standing in cot rather than try to get him to lie down. My dd went through a phase of this and I ignored it, she soon got the message!
Good luck!