Advice please on 10 month old who wont sleep

[lois1974]

Hi, I'm new on here so dont yet understand all abbreviations but basically I'm at the end of my tether, my 10 month old son has been danced to sleep with music since about 4 months old as we found it was the only way to soothe him and now at 10 months we're still doing the same and it's killing me and hubby. Also he goes down about 7.30, then wakes about 10/11pm to come in with me and wont sleep unless I do this, so my hubby is in spare room and then he wakes between 12 and 3am for a bottle which he drinks 6ozs, and then wakes at 6am yawning and sometimes grumpy !!! He's my first child at 36 and is special as I tried for 8 years to concieve and had him by IVF, I have no family close by which is why he's in with me because I need the sleep to function the next day.
I dont know if to try CC as whenever he cries for longer than 5 minutes he projectile vomits everywhere - is this painting my grim sleep pattern hahaha - any and all advice is very welcome. Cheers

Well I don't know if I am reading your post right but it sounds as if he does sleep for about 11 hours with 2 wakings? that is not actually awful when compared to others. If you want to drop the bottle you could try offering less and less each night?

Well not quite he stirs through the night and often it can take till 9pm (like tonight) to actually get him to sleep. He seems to fight sleeping and will not settle himself at all. I have tried offering water instead but he screams and cries until I give him a bottle and he eats enough during the day too.

Hi Lois.My DS is also 10 months,we've had a few sleep issues with him.
Sounds like your DS finds it hard to self settle to sleep.and maybe he also finds it hard to switch off.

What is his routine like in the day time?

You have my sympathy. My dd1 didn't sleep through the night until 18 months. The things that helped were

• a clear bedtime routine with stories and cuddles
• no talking or eye contact or cuddles in the night
• a 3 min rule for responding to crying. So a bit like CC but keep the time short to avoid a hysterical baby

It will get better - eventually.

thanks ladies, his daily routine is pretty similar most days, he wakes between 6 and 7am, has a bottle then breakfast, ususally by 9/10am he's rubbing his eyes but will only go to sleep for me if I either take him for a wlk or dance him to sleep (can take a while) or the car - he has about 30mins and then lunch at midday, he sometimes naps in afternoon anywhere between 30mins to 2 hours sometimes nothing though and then tea at 5ish and his bath time is same time every day and he doesn't come back down stairs after it but like I said it can take anywhere between 10 mis to 2hours to settle him.

He's very busy and active all day, he loves contact all the time and if he stirs in the night when he's in bed with me as soon as I touch his face or hand he's fine, when napping through the day he will sleep longer in my arms but I dont do this much as I usually have things to be getting on with.

Also if I leave him cry for more than 5 mns he's sick every single time !!!