Waking nearly 2 year old...ends up in my bed...gah I want it back!

[Mamashep]

So, my boy is nearly 2, and he has suffered with lots of ear infections since Nov last year, we're seeing consultant etc about this (and am keeping my fingers crossed for grommets as DD had them and they worked for her) He has always been a poor sleeper, and we were patting himm to sleep, then just sitting in the room which they share.
Because he has been poorly a lot, we bring him into our bed for a cuddle and intend to return him, but fall asleep with him in our bed.
So this is now a habit, (no ear infection at the mo) how can I break it? Or do I just accept it as he will one day sleep all night in his own bed?
It's not made easier as he and DD share a room, so I can't (nor would I want to leave him shouting and crying) as he will wake her up.
Any advice, reassurances, suggestions all v. ratefully received!

My DS is 2 and he too has been waking a lot at night recently.
I refuse to let him into my bed, but I am prepared to get into his with him.
He shouts and screams at the idea to start with because he wants to come to my bed, but once I'm in there with him and we're having a cuddle, he soon calms down.
I wait until he is either asleep or calm enough and I then return to my own bed.

He shares a room with his sister, so I too am conscious about screaming and waking her up.

Thanks for that, just had discussion with DP about getting him a bed, as he loves getting into his sisters...his sister went into a bed when we needed the cot for him, but think he will be in a bed sooner.

With a whole new set of issues, she was v. good at going to bed and staying put, she never came downstairs, not sure why. Even when we have friends round and are a bit loud. I am betting he will be like a jack-in-a-box...rapid return here we come!

Sorry, you didn't say he was still in a cot. My suggestion isn't so helpful then!

Yes, I too took DD out of her cot when we needed it for DS.
She was 1.10.

DS's cot wasn't needed for anyone else, but I felt he was ready for a bed at night when he was 1.9.
He still napped in his cot during the day, but slept happily in his bed at night.

It's only quite recently that he has started getting out and coming to find me.

Certainly, being able to get into bed with him is very useful at the moment.

IME they stop eventually by themselves!

my lot have ALL gone through phases of coming into our bed at night. and eventually they just stop doing it.
in fact, this week is the first time in ages that my 3 yr old hasn't snuck in at about 4am

So, another a year or so, think I can manage that... I mean, its not that bad, it could be worse, at least he sleeps in our bed and doesn't mess about too much. That would p me off and also be v. annoying. Although he does kick the duvet off, which is v.v. annoying. But when he says "mummeeeee" and cuddles me, is all fine really.

yeah and mine go through phases, so it hasn't been constant for the last 3 years
they were all fine once they started sleeping through, but we have a few weeks/months here and there where they start waking for whatever reason and come in for comfort

ds1 who is 6 did it for a while when he started school. but we'd generally wait til he fell asleep then put him back in his own bed cos he's big and kicky!

DD always used to be in our bed, but I always said 'well, she won't be doing it when she's 18, so I'm not going to worry about it'.

She's 17, and last night ended up in bed with me!

Don't worry about it - enjoy the cuddles!

echo RuthChan. Our ds was a monkey for waking up til he was about 3. He slept with us quite a bit when he was a baby coz of b/feeding and us being too knackered to carry him back to his cot . It became a habit, when he woke up in the middle of the night sometimes he'd yell for us, sometimes he'd come running in - either way he'd end up in our bed.
We got him a single bed when he was about 2, so when he woke, we got in with him and sneaked out when he was asleep.
Took a while, but now it's only once in a while he ends up in with us. He gets kicked out fairly quickly too as he's a duvet kicker wriggler!