Still feeding to sleep at one year. Rod for own back?

[Piggyleroux]

I'm still bf'ing ds to sleep at one year. We co sleep which is absolutely fine, feels totally normal to me and dh, but I am worried that feeding to sleep is going to mean that he will be unable to drop off without a boob in his mouth.

I have no issue with it. He wakes maybe twice in the night and finds booby himself and goes back off. Doesn't disturb me or dh.

Should I be sleep training? Feel like a shit and lazy mum tbh.

Pigglyleroux: If co-sleeping had worked for me I would have done it till DS wanted out of the family bed. It didn't, however, and we've just had a trying few days persuading DS that he can go to sleep without the boob after 8 months of feeding to sleep. It was hard (I have a thread in this section with all my angst) BUT it was only really one night that was v. hard, and he's pretty much worked it out now, I think.

I don't believe in rods-for-backs, I really don't. We all have different habits as families. If you're happy, your DH is happy, and your little boy is happy, seems like an 'aint broke don't fix it' situation to me.

It's mind over matter: if you don't mind, it don't matter!

It's really not an issue if it's not an issue for you. Who cares what anyone else thinks?

I had to stop feeding to sleep because I knew I would have occasional overnights and late finishes when I started back at work. It was very very easy btw. So if you want to stop it prob won't be the nightmare you imagine. But if you like it and don't have a reason to stop, why should you?

I've been thinking the same about feeding dd 6 months to sleep. I have decided to go with the flow for now. Like others say if you're happy then no need to change things. One of my close friends recently sleep trained her 20 month old and it only took 3/4 days. So don't worry just do things when you and your baby are ready.

And how did she do it jasmine? Watching with interest!

She lay in the bed with her and patted her to sleep. The first 2 nights were quite bad and worse when her dd woke up in the middle for her comfort feeds. But the crying does get less and less every time. Her dd sleeps through now but she does have to get into bed with her so may not be ideal for some. I'm hoping it will be just as easy when dd gets to that age, but unlikely knowing our luck!

Thanks for that!

I agree with most / all of the other posters - if you, DH and DS are happy with things as they are, then there's no problem at all.

I was in a similar situation to you, but DS (7 months) was snacking all night, and was unable to go to sleep at naptimes w/o going for a walk in the pram or for a drive in the car. We're currently mid-sleep training!...

Irregular, what method are you using?

Irregular, what method are you using?

no, if you're all happy with it go with it

i fed my second 2 to sleep until they grew out of it, which happened between 18-24 months for both of them

Sorry for temporary threadjack Piggyleroux!

jasmin27 - we're basically using gradual withdrawal.

We're on night # 4, and DS has gone from feeding to sleep, co-sleeping, and snacking all night to going to sleep on his own in his cot and 2x 3min feeds last night. We're going to begin to tackle his 1st nap of the day next.