want 2y9m DD not to wake us till 7am - possible?

[iskra]

I'm thinking it's not possible!

We got DD a clock for her room & told her she couldn't come in to our room until 7am, but she could play in her room. She's 2y 9m & we've been doing it for nearly 2 weeks now - not working. The problem is that DP gets really angry at being woken, returns her roughly to bed, shouts at her. He is non-negotiable on whether it's something that she's developmentally able to do right now. I feel like it's causing so much friction we should let it go, but he is adamant. All the other mums I know with kids the same age just accept it & get up at 6,30 with them.

She wakes up between 6.15 & 6.30. She naps about half the week, if she hasn't napped it sometimes makes a difference to her morning rising but not always. She goes to bed at 7.30 so maybe we should try tweaking that... she never seems to need more than about 10.5h sleep! DP is also adamant that we should keep her napping

Our DD is 2.7. I rarely get her into bed before 8pm, which wrecks the evenings, but she does like to sleep in until at least 7pm.

We've dropped the naps. On the odd day she falls asleep in the car, her quality of sleep and length of sleep is much worse. Drop the naps!

Otherwise, you may just have to suck it up. A friend of mine has to get up with her DS every day at 5.30am. It could be worse.

No nap yesterday - she went to bed at 7.15 & woke up at 7am. Just got to convince DP!

Sorry, 7pm in my last message should have read 7am!

Sounds like your night was much better last night for no-nap, iskra. My DD slept yesterday in the car for around an hour, and it was getting on for 10pm by the time I got her to bed (DH is working away this week). She also woke twice in the night. The no-nap days are so much better.

We have a stairgate on DS1s room. He's on another floor of the house and it is to prevent him getting up in the night and falling down the stairs. However, it also keeps him in his own room until we go and get him!

iskra your dp doesn't sound very nice "returning her roughly" and shouting at her. imo 6.30 isn't that bad. It isn't realistic to expect every 2 year old to sleep til 7am or indeed to entertain herself when she isn't yet 3. fwiw my daughter would not have entertained herself at 2.9 years but almost a year on from there is now more able to do so. :)
My dd1 has always been a great sleeper. Entirely different situation with dd2. We got her a rabbit clock around 2.6 years, not much luck. She is now 3.7 and has started to understand but she is naturally an early riser.
We hate it. However now she is more like 6.30 when a year ago it was 5.30/6.
We have various strategies, including bringing her in the bed with us if it is before 6.
Generally dh is better at getting up early than I am, but to be fair to me this is because I have more success settling either of the children in the night (although thankfully this is rare)