Hysterical crying when being put to bed in cot!

[Lindt]

Hi,

Can anyone please give me some advice?

I have 10 month old boy twins. One is a great sleeper and the other has been a nightmare since birth.

We go upstairs around 6pm, bath, change nappies and clothes and then give them their last bottle in the dark.

One goes down and sleeps straight away and the other cries as soon as his head hits the cot.

We have tried controlled crying with us going in every few minutes, picking him up and he calms straight down, (even does a sigh of contentment in my arms every time!!) then as soon as you put him down again he screams.

Tonight we had screaming for an hour and a half!!

What can we do, as I think its possibly getting worse as he gets older and I'd like to try and get this solved.

When he's crying, it sounds like its the end of the world for him and I don't know what to do anymore.

Please help.....

Thanks,

Some babies are tension releasers when they cry, but others get more and wound up when left to cry for any duration - my dcs were both the latter. Perhaps a different approach, like gradual withdrawal, where you stay with him, but increase the distance away each night until you're no longer in the room, might suit him better. It's slower, but may be less stressful. Explain to him what you're going to do at bedtime, and perhaps cuddle him in bed (I know it can involve all sorts of contortions) until he relaxes, stay by him until deeply asleep, next night a wee bit less, and so on.