9mths: Introduce Dummy or not? Sharing room with ds1 so can't let ds2 cry.........

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None of the bloody sleeping books seem to acknowledge the existence of a) more than one child or b) families who have small houses.

Short history:

Ds2 was in an Amby but now in a cot
He slept through from 8weeks so I know the little bugger can do it.
He crys for a bit before sleeping for nap times.
he's on a Gina (ekkk!) style routine in the day and eats and naps well.

He tends to wake up, I resettle him (slush/pat) then he wakes up again and again so I give in and feed him. This is anytime from 11pm-3am. Usually only once Thank God.

I am wondering if I should stick a dummy in his mouth at night to avoid the feed or would this create more problems do you think?

I go back to work soon and need to sort this out.......

I doubt very much whether he'd take a dummy at this age anyway but i'd avoid cos its obvious what he actually wants, since u r doing gina type routine anyway then i wonder why u havent nipped this earlier.
I'd feed him straight away, not wait to u r totally fed up. I.e at 11pm, and continue then you'll find that 11pm change to half 10 to 10 to half 9 til it eventually merges with bedtime routine. If not wake him yourself earlier and earlier and feed him and creep it backwards. But u might find he wakes earlier in mornings then and have to try creep them forwards.

Well around 9 months there is a developmental leap so sleep goes a bit crazy for a while. DS's certainly did and not much helped except feeding back to sleep which was quicker. He wasn't hungry - just needed comforting. He stopped after a while.

How long has this been going on for? Also are teeth on the way?

My 2 girls have shared a room since DD2 was 11 months old, they never seem to wake each other up in the night regardless of how much they are crying...the only time it is a pain is when one wakes early in the morning as they do then tend to wake the other up....

It did take a week or so for DD1 to get used to the crying but now they go in their room together at bed time, DD1 drifts off to sleep while DD2 chats away to herself and they don't tend to wake each other up in the night.

He's been waking up since Christmas really, that when it all went a bit bad. And here we are three months later!

Yesterday was routine perfect in the day. I dream fed ds2 at 11-12pm. Then he woke at 2 (beast), settled without a feed, then woke at 4.15am (double beast). I went and fed him to sleep on the sofa (mug).

The problem is that he does wake ds1 as this has happened already. Plus ds1 is a very early waker so if he woke at 4.15am then he (ds1) wouldn't go back to sleep.

No signs of teething.

Oh man it sucketh.

Did you start weaningat 6 months? I only ask because it could be wind or tummy trouble. DS suffers from this with things like green veg, biscuits, bread. So I have to watch quantities and tea is always very boring. Also careful with fruit - again only before lunch.

we weaned before six months, he was just too hungry to wait.

Tea last night was lentil puree, rice and fish (and mix of his food and what we were eating).

I often give him broccoli as he can feed himself.

When he woke up I thought he had a dirty nappy as his cot STANK but I checked and it was clean. So maybe it's wind that wakes him up?

What do you do for tea?

Yes def could be wind with the smell. Broccoli and lentils are terrible for that! Part of the issue is that it builds up while they're sleeping then wakes them up.

For tea I do meat/fish with rice or pasta or potatoes (white or sweet). No green veg - give that at lunch time but only very small amounts. Safer veg - butternut squash, sweetcorn and carrots.

You can also try a teaspoon of fennel and/or peppermint tea after tea and let him run about - will get some wind out.

Run about - I mean roll or crawl about.