Do husbands really understand how hard it can be?

[jubblicious]

My DS is 14weeks and as much as I love him, the lack of sleep on some days is driving me mad!

DH used to help without me having to ask but it seems like the novelty has worn off.

Our arguements are now because I'm so tired from staying up with DS all night as he isnt sleeping at the moment, I don't have the energy to go our during the day. DH thinks its me being anti social or letting DS control my life. But he doesn't understand how tiring it can be.

He gets to go to work, have a decent night sleep, get time to eat and shower without worrying.

I'm tired. So shoot me down if I dont have the energy or inclination to be all jolly and all engines on fire.

It just feel like it's all on top of me. I haven't had a few hours to myself since DS was born. Is it just me?

oh god hillee, I take my hat off to you both ...

and jubblicious, it is so hard. when you're tired you don't have the option to "forget", do you? nor the option of trying or not trying.

it's so important that he sees looking after your baby as a joint project when he's home from work, not something he helps out at and gets praise for. easier said than done, I know.

but 14 weeks is very early days - I promise your life will feel more normal as the weeks go by.

god this thread makes me feel better. it seems it's a universal problem. THEY JUST DON'T GET IT..AND NEVER WILL...my dh cared for dd1 for a few months when he was made redundant and almost got it then...but that was before she turned into a troublesome toddler and her brother came along and quadrupled the sleep interruptions.
I could have written 85% of posts on here from luxury poos, to earplugged dads claiming tiredness. mine even has the audacity to tell me to stop being a martyr........no i'm just being the mother of your children darling. sad thing is he was great with the first one but the second has just about finished him off..does anyone else have that problem?
Even when he does his bit and gets up with them/does night feeds, I still wake up and worry about them..he of course is out like a light for a straight 8 hours if it's my turn.

Jubbilicious I feel your pain!

DP is great with DS, but because he doesn't have to spend all day every day with him i dont think he understands just how tirring it is; even if we have a good night.

DS is EBF and a resolute bottle refuser, so every night shift for the past 5 months has been down to me. I'm really lucky in one sense that DS wakes, feeds and goes back down pretty easily; but it still drives me crazy that DP doesn't even hear DS when he wakes up at night.

could have cheerfully murdered DP the other night when for once he did hear DS before I did and he shook me to wake me up. Granted there was nothing he could do but it still felt a bit like "Your baby is awake".

And DP had a 3 hour nap the other weekend

Nice husbands do.