9 month old won't feed to sleep or take dummy anymore

[littlegreenpig]

DS has always been fed to sleep at night and had a dummy. I haven't minded feeding to sleep or feeding back to sleep or getting up to put the dummy in when he's woken in the night. The problem is that he no longer falls asleep feeding and point blank refuses to take a dummy and will just scream/cry instead. This has been happening for ages at night time and at bedtime for a few days. Walking around with him occasionally calms him but can take an hour or two. The sling sometimes works but not always. I have tried shushing/patting but he gets angrier. I really don't know how to get him to sleep! Nights have been difficult for ages but I was always relieved that bedtime wasn't an issue. Now I just don't know what to do. This evening we've tried feeding to sleep and the sling. OH has now gone for a walk outside with him as a last resort. I'm reluctant to leave him to cry if there's anything else I could try. Any ideas?

No, but similar issues with 14 month old DS so will watch with interest

This happened with us recently,the fact that even a bottle wouldn't settle my 9 month old anymore sent me down the controlled crying route. 'twas very effective and I had done it with my DD a couple of years back.
It worked very quickly but I know it's not right for all. You do go in at intervals not just leaving them completely which made me feel better.
Whatever approach you do be consistent with it.

When I said to the Dr that he was waking up so often and crying so much he recommended CC and DH has wanted to do it from the beginning but I wouldn't let him! DS is ill at the moment though so definitely not even thinking about it at the moment, but I think that is what we may end up doing. Me doing Incy wincy spider for nearly an hour eventually worked last night but not sure that it's a long term solution or even one that would work again!

I know that you're completely right about consistency, but I'm aware it's not my strong point!