is there a point when the day has "started"

[puppette]

hi everyone - my 13 week old ds has been settling at 7pm for about 5 weeks now and he is fairly consistently going past 1am for his next feed. We have just been feeding him when he wakes and asks for food in the night but in the last week or two there have been 3 times where it's been as long as 4am/5am. It has been very tricky to resettle him on these occasions. would you bother if it was say, 5.30am? Also, should I be worried about the length of time he is going without a feed? He weighs 14lb. I am reluctant to do a "dream feed" as he has had lots of digestive discomfort and needs thorough winding and some upright time after a feed so it would sort of defeat the object of a dream feed.....

I wouldn't worry at all, if he needed more food he would ask for it - you are just a lucky mummy!

I would try and resettle at anytime before 6 as you don't want to teach him it's ok to get up early in case he consistently get up at 4/5 etc! Waking anytime after 6 i treat as a start to the day though.

6am in our house, but that is with a nearly one year old. Will he go back off if you co-sleep at 5.30am?

thank you. 6am sounds like a good "threshold" so I will have a go at working to that.
Flisspaps - havent tried co-sleeping@ 5.30am but will give that a go as it seems a good way of extending the night without going into full on re-settling mode..

Agree with the 6am threshold although my 4.5mth old DS occasionally gets up at 5am for a feed and by the time the feed is finished/burped etc it's 6am anyway, so no chance then! I tend to try and go back to bed once he's down for his next nap.

He sounds very like yours in terms of sleeping patterns, and the settling time - the good news is that he only rarely does the 5am wakeup, the bad news is it's normally 6!

For me 6 is fine to start the day, anything before then it's still bloody night time!! However, if he will settle with a feed at 6 then I'd do that. There's no need to set his body clock to get us so early. I also wouldn't start co-sleeping to extend the night - I'd either co-sleep or not (but that's just me :) )