"Im scared"

[melsy]

Is the new tactic 2yr old dd is using to prolong not going to sleep , crying and standing up in cot.She seems disturbed during night too and ive posted about it , but its really becoming a bind every night. Im on tenderhooks every night waiting to hear her. Last night at midnight I lost my temper and screamed at her from my bed to "go to sleep" , probably not the best if shes freaked out, but not sure if its just a new thing shes learned to get me in to her room and out of cot, but Im bl**dy fliipin knackered and so sick of not having a full nights sleep. She also refused to have any of her teddys in her cot and threw them all out!! I put them back she but she screamed blue murder and freaked out at them and did seem scared , weird as they havent bothered her before , wondering if shes had a nightmare with them involved

Does she have a nightlight melsy?

We struggled for ages with DS if he woke in the middle of the night, telling him there was nothing to be scared of and that it wasn't 'dark' although tbh it was pitch black in there due to my early brainwashing by Gina F. He had one of those low glow night lights that didn't really give off any light ... and then eventually when he was 5 I gave in and let him have one of those brighter ones and he is no longer scared as he can wake up and see his room IYSWIM?
I wish I had given him that one years ago. As soon as DD says she is scared (which all children do eventually don't they?) I will give her a proper night light too.

I got a fab night light from IKEA, about £7 i think, its the shape of a ghost, white and glows blue just enough to see, not enough to illuminate the room.
Just plug it in to charge then it can be put any where in the room.
It some times works for my 2year old who like yours is up and down all night.
Dont feel bad about the yelling, ive done that too, in absolute exhausted desperation.
He still doesnt sleep through the night, never has but occasionally, the ghost light works getting him to settle.
Why do you think that she wakes in the night?
(stupid question, but im hoping that you could help me with this too)

I do have a nightlight. So you suggest it should be brighter? Its one that plugs into socket IYKWIM. It seems to be now its darker every night , as before she was going to bed and it was light out! I hold her every noight for a cuddle befroe laying her down and she seems jumpy, jerking her head around as if a bit unsettled with her surroundings.

I think recently its been a few things; teething / a cold / generaly wanting mummy cuddles when shes at end of sleep cycle, not sure really donbean. Its seems to be every 4-5 hrs many nights.

Hm, its a complete nightmare isnt it, mine is up every couple of hours some nights.
Last night he was up 4 times, night before, every hour but the night before he slept through.
I never know from one night to the next what he will be like.
I have experimented with:
Stopping his sleep in the day,
lenthening his sleep in the day,
shortening his sleep in the day or restricting it to 1 hour.
Drugs, ie medised when he has a cold/croup,
None of this makes any difference to the night time at all.
I just lead him back to bed as he is in a big boy bed now. This i do over and over. I have never let him in our bed.

I posted on this a few times and people just seem to say ride the storm, it will settle eventually. Its just the way that our children are, SIGH

Sounds like the same regime or 2 that ive been trying!!! , along with medised with colds and teething.

Its the unpredictability that affects me and Im stressed also with work and get rare rest time. Which is par for the course for most mums, but Ive had some problems in the past with severe insomnia and Im getting affected by the waking.

AHEM...does your dd have access to a mobile phone? Do you think that the two of them are in cahoots with each other! LOL
I think that my ds rings your dd from the naughty step when he has LOTS of private time to think and reflect and he and she swap top tips for waking up and waking the street up!

PMSL its probably true , dd freaks me out with her awareness , so no doubt shes worked out how to use mobile phone no problem at 2 yrs old!!

think I may have woken the street up last night with my fisherwomen screamy pleadings, they must have thought, what a nut job next door !!