Is this safe co-sleeping?

[claire196]

I have a bed side cot but my 2 week old will so far only sleep when being cuddled. The only way I have any sleep is with his head on my arm, cuddled up together. I follow all the other guidelines for safe co-sleeping but if I move him away from me on the bed he just wakes up.

How do other people co-sleep? Am I being totally irresponsible and should I try harder to get him to sleep away from me? I dont feel like I'm going to squash him but it's still worrying me. Thanks.

Sorry, I don't have an answer to your question, but just wanted to say that in the first few weeks, my DD wouldn't lie flat to sleep and ended up sleeping in some funny positions on me. Not ideal but I was so tired I didn't care- I'd have done anything for a bit of sleep. It was a few weeks before she'd sleep happily in moses basket or bedside cot.

If breastfeeding, I feed to sleep putting baby pretty much on side, when they are done they flop onto bak and I roll away (if awake). Will he sleep cuddled up but in a way that you can roll away slightly from?

thanks for your replies. If I role away he just wakes up. He seems to need that contact which I want to give him, but not sure whether this is considered safe or not. How do other people deal with this?

My DD wouldn't sleep except on my chest to begin with. She is nearly 6 mo now and she co sleeps with us. She has a cot attached to our bed but spends a lot of time with her head on my arm and pillow. She is in a grobag rather than under our duvet (which could be dangerous). The risks of cosleeping are suffocation and overheating. If your DS is on your arm with the covers far away then the risks of these are probably low - you can judge these. Have you considered that he doesn't want to lie flat and this might indicate reflux?

I co-slept with twins and we all cuddled in together. I just slept with a sheet to keep them the right temp. A good read is a book called three in a bed, but I can't remember who by. She reckons it's not a problem. Also if you are bf you will naturally form a protective circle around your dc. Sleep well

Three in a bed is by Deborah Jackson, it's a great book and will make you feel more confident with co-sleeping. My DD is 8 weeks now, she is the same, liking to lie on my arm. I'm pretty sure it mentions it being ok in the book.
I was worried too at first, but it seems safer because having her on my arm makes it less likely to roll on her.