At my wits end with dds sleep; again.

[poshsinglemum]

I have posted before about my dds appauling sleep patterns.

I admit that I'm partly to blame but I have been trying to change things and she is really digging her heels in. I feel like she's ruining my life and I am becoming angry and resentful and snapping at her in the day.

Sinse Christmas her sleeping has really gone to pot. She's been up til about 11 when I go to bed telling me that her bum is hurting and she needs cream and that she is scared of monsters etc.

I have been putting her back into bed but she just pretends to be asleep and wehen I go downstairs she comes out of bed and then runs back in when I go upstairs.

She later comes into bed with me.

I have a new boyfriend and he finsihes shifts at about ten then comes round afterwards. he loves dd and is great with her but she waits up for him and he helps me read a story. I probably shouldn't let him do this but she loves him so much and calls for him when he comes in.

I am so tired and confused. I just want her in bed at a reasonable hour so that she gets enough sleep and so that I have a reasonable relationship. I am frightened that her lack of sleep will ruin my relationship. He is graet about it but I resent the intrusion into my privacy tbh. I love it when she is with us in the day but at night I want to shag my nboyfriend on the sofa without dd listening in. grrrr.By ten when he comes in she should be asleep surely.

I am just going to have to spend a few nights putting her back into bed aren't I?

I think the 2 things to do are

1. Break the cycle by getting her up early and putting her to bed by 8.

1. Being rigorous and disciplined about it. Know why you want to change these habits and stick to your guns.

I get her up there by about 7.30. I am just going nuts and want to cry. I also want her to sleep in her own bed all through the night instead of coming in with me.

At the moment she does what she does because she can. if you put yourself in her position, you'd do the same.
I would suggest you decide what it is you want to do and keep at it. I guess you've probably seen supernanny do it. You do the bedtime routine. You plan for a long slog on the 1st night, you might need to put her back countless times. From what you describe there is no easy way out. It'll be like going cold turkey.
if you get anywhere reward her with lots of love and time, perhaps do a sticker chart, but don't relapse.